MS29 Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 (edited) Hey everyone im a senior in high school and need adivice. Thank you So here is my story. My girlfriend of 10 months and I needed a break for a while because I wasnt getting enough friend time in. so thanks giving weekend she goes out with her friends I go out with mine. like w,e sounds all good but little did I know she go completely drunk and her friend wanted to hang out with these guys. well she and her friend made out with and gave blow jobs in there car and thses are people I hang out with at school there not really friends but there friends through friends. Im very disgusted she says it was a huge mistake and is crying and leaving school everyday and i feel bad for that and I love her but i dont want her back because I get flashes of her doing this with this guy in his car, this isnt the first time we took a break though she also made out with a guy drunk on our last break. like im so emotional stuck. I can give more detail if you ask but that sums it all up please I need help its killing me all she wants is a second chance to make things right but I cant get over this i keep picturing it. I need Advice and should I give her a second chance Edited October 15, 2009 by MS29
trueblue72ny Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 sorry for your situation. dont mean to be blunt, but its over. best thing for you to do is just move on best you can. you cant accept her back after that. because now you cant trust her not to do it again. her irresponsibiltiy has caused a lot of hurt. maybe next time she will think twice before she acts like a ho.
leap83 Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 I'm sorry... but how is this her fault? You were on a BREAK!!! That means you were broken up. What she did during the break is really none of your business. In all honesty, (if I got this right) you asked for a break 2 TIMES already. If this was me, when you asked for the second break, I would be running for the hills. You're lucky she stayed with you. YOU weren't getting enough friend time in because YOU didn't know how to balance the 2. It's not her fault. It's your issue and in all honesty, she doesn't have to deal with that. So as much as she "messed up"... you messed up too for taking a break. IMO.
Author MS29 Posted October 15, 2009 Author Posted October 15, 2009 She is asking for forgiveniss and asking me to come back to her the break was more of a night off from each other not a break up sorry for the mix up. And the person she did this with hangs out with my group of friends and she says she was not her self and it was stupid but like i cant look past it.
leap83 Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 All of this sounds way too immature to me. Then she cheated on you 2 times already. Is there anything clearer than her actions?
reservoirdog1 Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 I'm a bit confused about what the nature of your "break" was. But it's pretty clear what you should do in either situation. If it was "let's take the night off from seeing each other and go hang out with our respective friends", then she's cheated on you. Both times you've taken this sort of "break". You should dump her. If it was an overall break from the relationship (which is kind of what it sounded like, from the way you described the two breaks, but I could be wrong), then who she kisses or blows while you're broken up is her own business. The only question in that case is whether you can accept it or not. If you can't, end the relationship. If you can, you accept it, and let the matter die, without holding it over her head. Hope that helps...
memsie Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 im having the same problem- boyfriend wants me back after i broke up with him, but while we were apart he conducted himself in a manner that i never thought he would... its hard to think about someone you love in a 'promiscuous' situation. in your case, i would say move on. she obviously has a lot of growing up to do. even if you were 'on a break' do you want to be with someone who goes looking for a hookup the next night?
NopeNah Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 When you said "she blew it" I never expected it to be in the literal sense. Move on man..you're a young guy with a lot of time to find the right one.
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