michelea1 Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Hello, I am very depressed now. I met this guy in my apartment complex and we had sex on the first meeting. Shortly after that he said he thought we were rushing things, but he doesnt have a car and he wants me to take him to get his hair cut so I did. He did not offer me gas or anything. Later that day he used my phone to call his male cousin which was ok. Then he uses my phone to call his female friend. He said that she was going to give him some money and he wanted to tell her in person that she did not have to give him the money. I told him I didn't want him to use my phone to call other females on it. He said that I was overeacting and that I'm the only girl that he is having sex with and that I'm not his woman anyways. I said that i know im not your woman but out of respect during our time together you souldnt be talking to other girls in front of me, because I dont talk to my male friends infront of him. I just let the phone ring. Am I overeating or should I've a been upset. I want him to be my boyfriend, but he doesnt want to be my boyfriend. I am so hurt.
Lizzie60 Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN .. this guy is a parasite..
brokenglass Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Am I overeating or should I've a been upset. I want him to be my boyfriend, but he doesnt want to be my boyfriend. I am so hurt. Then why are you having sex with him? Yes you are overreacting...he's explicitly said he doesn't want to be your boyfriend. Therefore, let him use your phone but tell him no when you don't want him to. Give him rides but ask for gas money. Don't have sex with him. If you don't declare boundaries he'll continue to walk all over you and trample your emotions. Stand up for yourself.
mushmush Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN .. this guy is a parasite.. lol, so true.. He is using you in what ever way he can.. Nothing good can come of this.
CaliGuy Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 I know we as people tend to let our emotions or hormones get the best of us. That said, I post this all the time and it bears repeating: "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?!" He's using you, but only because you are letting him.... There's NO POSSIBLE WAY anyone can use you if you do not allow it. You have control over that.
carhill Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 OP, I hope you won't let this evil little worm sour your opinion of men. Real men don't use you for sex, phone calls, or rides. Be happy that he will be some other unfortunate woman's BF
phineas Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 {shaking my head} I remember when I couldn't get a woman I just met to accept a drink from me.
Odyssey Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 He's the one getting most the benefits and he doesn't sound like much of a friend. Run before he sucks the life out of you.
BookerT Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Nothing gets a person hooked on a jerk faster than having sex with the guy on the first meeting. People shouldn't do what ever they feel like doing in relationships as if there's no reprecussions to actions.
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