Should I break up?

[Stune]

As the thread states I am close to considering breaking up. We had an argument just a few days ago. Girlfriend of 3 years threw her laptop I had given her for last christmas.

 

Basically she went all ballistic and threw it hard on the floor. From then on proceed to stomp all over it while hurling insults at the same time. I just left right there. I'm usually not one to get spooked so easily but she scare the hell out of me. So I don't know. That was surprising, unexpected...

 

Never seen this before. A 5 year old child can perhaps throw a tantrum like that but what we're talking about here is a 24 year old woman.

Edited October 15, 2009 by Stune

[Eisenhower]

You're asking us to weigh in on whether you should break up based on a temper tantrum? Too little information. For instance, did she destroy the laptop because she didn't like the color? Or did she destroy it because she found emails between you and another lover? You see what I'm getting at? Too little information.

[Stune]

You're asking us to weigh in on whether you should break up based on a temper tantrum? Too little information. For instance, did she destroy the laptop because she didn't like the color? Or did she destroy it because she found emails between you and another lover? You see what I'm getting at? Too little information.

No there never has a problem in the relationship nor infidelity involve. Stop assuming things.

 

We were discussing things about having problems with her parents in the relationship as they never like me but I careless. She never backed them up esp. when they were very rude to the point of calling me names. Then girlfriend would complain of why I didn't came to her house more often. That was when she still live with parents.

 

How is one suppost to come to the house of someone that hates you and still be nice? Impossible. I get all the blamed mainly for not showing up more at the time. And what about her? She didn't do nothing when her parents were insulting me. No fair.

So when I started pointing out all her flaws and the fact that she never defend me not even once (no, in fact she was agreeing with many things her parents would tell her about me), she goes ballistic and does throws her laptop.

[TaraMaiden]

Eisenhower isn't assuming things. he's just illustrating that if you want concise replies, you need to give concise information.

We can't just go on one incident....

 

i think it's an lingual interpretation problem... English isn't your first language, is it? So there's bound to be misunderstanding.

Relax, we're trying to help....

 

The laptop is the least of your problems.

her parents, on the other hand...

 

They'll never go. They will always be there, and she puts them first.

 

if she can be so disrespectful to you, she does not consider you an important enough factor in her life. Either that, or she is too much under their control.

 

Either way, I would seriously consider how much effort you want to put into this, considering the fight you're going to have on your hands.

Edited October 15, 2009 by TaraMaiden

[Stune]

Either way, I would seriously consider how much effort you want to put into this, considering the fight you're going to have on your hands.

You're right. This here is way too much to handle and I had the most utermost patience to put up with it for so long.

When I later thought everything was now settled and me and her parents were on a friendly level and that at last I would be consider part of the family, I later learn that they were just being hypocrites all along.

 

So all that fake apology from them was only part of an acting. I overheard that over the phone when I accidentally wanted to call a friend of mine and happened to listened to my girlfriend's conversation with her mother.

 

Needless, that day I went to the house and told them straight out what I heard and that I'm not putting up with that type of BS and if they got more things to say, I would rather have it told in my face. So now we're back at disliking each other.