D-Lish Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Funny story, when I was dating Kathy (black) her brother Dan was dating a white girl, Julie. We went to this really upscale restaurant in Dallas. When the host came to seat us , he seated Dan and Kathy together, and Julie and I together. When we switched seats, he informed us that there was a problem in the kitchen and the restaurant was closing, so we would have to leave. Am I just a naive Canadian or something? This **** would never happen within 100 square miles of where I live.
Author tigressA Posted October 15, 2009 Author Posted October 15, 2009 Ouch. I have a funny story too, not really to do with dating but it's a clear example of how some people are way too quick to scream "Racism!" My aunt, two cousins (all black) and I went out to dinner. There was about a 20-minute wait and when we were seated, we were given a table near the restrooms. My aunt threw a fit and they prepared another table for us. The manager came over and apologized, saying that her own mother, who's Hispanic, came in not too long ago and complained of the same thing happening to her. I didn't understand what the big deal was at all. I was baffled by the whole thing. Side note: This same aunt, and other black family members, are the ones who ask me this "What is he?" question most often.
boldjack Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 I think that what you experienced is a generational thing. I can remember when Blacks and other non-white people, were always given the worst seats. Near the restrooms or near the kitchen entrance, or close to the main entrance, during cold weather. This is probably why your aunt was upset. D-lish, This same friend of mine Dan, and I went to Montreal to the forum for a RedWings-Canadians game. We went bar-hoping afterwards and 4 bars wouldn't serve him. So Yes, racism is in Canada, too.
Author tigressA Posted October 15, 2009 Author Posted October 15, 2009 Yeah, that's what I figured out eventually. She's actually my great-aunt; my other relatives her age are the same way. They were born and raised in the same area where I'm currently attending college; this area was also the location of a race riot in 1969 in which a former mayor was implicated in the shooting death of a young black woman, and they would've been maybe...early-mid high school age at that time. I can understand their sort of us v. them viewpoint because of that, and you know what they say about older people being stubborn about changing their views...
Author tigressA Posted October 15, 2009 Author Posted October 15, 2009 I hope you weren't including me !! Oh no, of course not. I don't have the slightest idea of your age.
boldjack Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Let's put it this way, I'm old enough to have sons, who, if they could see your pictures, would be camped on your doorstep, with flowers and a limo.:laugh:
MissJoness Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Not totally--it can for those who actually know my racial/ethnic background. But I also get the question from people who don't know what my background is and who even assume that it's completely different from what it is--I get so many people assuming I'm Indian it's, well, funny. That's not a bad thing. There's not a negative stigma against looking Indian. Ppl assume I am from Africa, and I hate it, because there's such a negative stigma against the country and how the women look. I'd love for someone to think I was Indian looking.
MissJoness Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Haha, I do know that. This isn't about being found attractive/unattractive. I know I'm hot. You probably appeal to more black guys. They always want the mix looking girls. I try to look mix but my nose..ugh, I'm going ot get a nose job so I can look more racially ambiguous. The mix girls have it so much easier wtih black men.
CarrieT Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Well, if you said a "horse", that would really get them to thinking;) I would answer, "a human being -- and what the hell does that make you for asking?" <snark>
Pizzaman81 Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 To me it's just another "attribute" It's like asking "How tall is he?" "What? what does that matter?!" "well to some it does" See? Same issue. Just another attribute to describe someone.
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