Tamia78 Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 No, I haven't broken NC yet, but I feel like I want to. I happened to hear "our" song on the radio this evening........and just broke down. I think I've moved past anger. Now I'm just sad. I want him back, plain and simple. Oh, I'm sure he's moved on, but I start to think about all the wonderful things he actually did for me. Why couldn't he just be that way forever? Do you all have those happily commited/married couples that say things like, "It'll work out. You'll get over it" and all that bull****? Is it bad for me to want to shoot them??????? It's easy for our friends to say those things--THEY are in a relationship. This morning, I felt like I was fine, nothing could bother me, I was over him, and now.........I feel like I did the day he texted me that it was over. I hate this. --T
logitech Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 I can feel for you T. I cop the "you're better off without her" speech a fair bit. This mainly comes from her sister's fiancee who is a few years younger than me yet will be getting married in Nov... You might have seen the rollercoaster thread. A lot of us are going through the same thing. Stay strong.
angelface78 Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Hang in there Tamia.. DONT CALL HIM. I was 3 months NC and then i started getting the urge to call. I think its normal. After a while it starts to sink in and you feel anxiety. I broke my NC and wish i hadnt. I wanted closure but he didnt give me any. I feel like i lost my dignity. All i found out is that he is seeing somebody. After our 5 year relationship. He seems to have moved on just like that. Calling wasnt worth it. Dont do it...respect yourself. You can do it. Hey i think we r the same age 1978...lol!
delajoonal Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 No, I haven't broken NC yet, but I feel like I want to. I happened to hear "our" song on the radio this evening........and just broke down. I think I've moved past anger. Now I'm just sad. I want him back, plain and simple. Oh, I'm sure he's moved on, but I start to think about all the wonderful things he actually did for me. Why couldn't he just be that way forever? Do you all have those happily commited/married couples that say things like, "It'll work out. You'll get over it" and all that bull****? Is it bad for me to want to shoot them??????? It's easy for our friends to say those things--THEY are in a relationship. This morning, I felt like I was fine, nothing could bother me, I was over him, and now.........I feel like I did the day he texted me that it was over. I hate this. --T wait...did you say that HE TEXTED YOU THE BREAK UP????? OMG!..if THIS IS how he did it...YOU have to KEEP this in your head everyday...don't let someone like this keep you down...this is unacceptable..break up by texting...argh!!!
Author Tamia78 Posted October 15, 2009 Author Posted October 15, 2009 [/i][/b] wait...did you say that HE TEXTED YOU THE BREAK UP????? OMG!..if THIS IS how he did it...YOU have to KEEP this in your head everyday...don't let someone like this keep you down...this is unacceptable..break up by texting...argh!!! Yes, Dela....he texted me that he was breaking up with me......don't get me started, lol. Angel--You mean you're NOT 78??? I believe you that he will never give me closure, and is probably with someone else as we speak, as much as I hate to admit it. It's just the type of guy he is. Logi-- I do know that I'm better off without him, but I guess it doesn't keep us from missing our exes, does it? It's just starting to bother me that my non-single friends just act like it's no big deal.......like they've never been thru that before. And, believe me, I wanna get thru it, but I can't just turn off my feelings, as much as I want to. Thanks you guys for the kind words. We're gonna make it, right? --T
DustySaltus Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 The last conversation I had with my X fiance started by her telling me she was engaged again, three months later (saturday). The shen proceeded to laugh and say it was a bad joke. But not to feel bad because she was with someone else the other day and her friend told her that I was much better looking than that guy (gee thanks !) Then to top it off without missing a beat she tries to have phone sex with me....she's a borderline personality. You're not alone, if you look at some of my threads it's a novel in itself. We all miss the person we thought they were, but they weren't that person...their true colors came out. He has issues much deeper than you and sooner or later the new person will get tired of it too...........you didn't do anything wrong here. The issues are much deeper than you. I'm sorry but we're all here if you need us.
delajoonal Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Yes, Dela....he texted me that he was breaking up with me......don't get me started, lol. Angel--You mean you're NOT 78??? I believe you that he will never give me closure, and is probably with someone else as we speak, as much as I hate to admit it. It's just the type of guy he is. Logi-- I do know that I'm better off without him, but I guess it doesn't keep us from missing our exes, does it? It's just starting to bother me that my non-single friends just act like it's no big deal.......like they've never been thru that before. And, believe me, I wanna get thru it, but I can't just turn off my feelings, as much as I want to. Thanks you guys for the kind words. We're gonna make it, right? --T tamia.. you're right...no matter how IT ended..we are human and YES it takes time to get over that person. your married friends are not getting it, cause either they have NOT been dumped. or they have been married SO long..they forgot how sucky IT is. i have found, that NO one understands what i am going thru better than the members here on LS... you will only get the support and understanding you need right now from others that are going thru it RIGHT NOW too... my OWN mother, told me MY divorce and life right now, are TOO Much for HER to handle..LOL...ya..can you believe that...well, if you KNEW her you would..LOL anyway...good luck sweetie..we are here for you!
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