TwilightSky Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 So, I'm looking for some insight into a particular dilemma of mine. I'm not sure how to gauge women's level of attraction towards me. I've had scenarios where friends of a certain woman will come up to me and tell me that girl in question thought I was "pretty cute" or whatever. I have told one co-worker about this (we are sort of friends), and he said they will just say that to mess with you, etc. I guess I'm asking, how do I gauge a women's level of attraction? I don't want to over-estimate attraction levels. Any tips would be appreciated.
BookerT Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 You read body language and how they interact with you. Smiling a lot at you, prolonged eye contact, licking ther lips, brushing their hair, touching your arm or chest, hitting you playfully especially when you're teasing them. Sure one indicator is not accurate but all those together shows interest. Oh and someone mentioned on another thread about a girl that bent over and stuck her ass at him in front of the photocopyer, that would be an indication too, lol.
Author TwilightSky Posted October 15, 2009 Author Posted October 15, 2009 Thanks, those are some good things to watch out for (and I have had those things, but didn't pay too much attention to them. Anyone else have any other tips?
Star Gazer Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 How old are the women you're interested in? I find it quite odd that a grown woman would rely on a friend to communicate interest level. Typically speaking, it's body language and overall flirty behavior.
Author TwilightSky Posted October 15, 2009 Author Posted October 15, 2009 How old are the women you're interested in? I find it quite odd that a grown woman would rely on a friend to communicate interest level. Typically speaking, it's body language and overall flirty behavior. This has happened to me a few times (telling me a girl thought I was attractive), once was in highschool (I'm 24 now, btw) the other was a year or two ago. But, anyway, do you think these "come-ons" were facetious?(sp?). I have had girls touch me (first), and I have noticed the body language at times. I just didn't think it meant anything.
Author TwilightSky Posted October 15, 2009 Author Posted October 15, 2009 So, SG, what do you think about that? Or if anyone else wants to input their opinion that is fine too.
stepka Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 How old are the women you're interested in? I find it quite odd that a grown woman would rely on a friend to communicate interest level. Typically speaking, it's body language and overall flirty behavior. Ah, go easy on the guy--some men are just really bad at reading flirty signals. It means they're not players, which is a good thing. One thing to look for when talking to a woman is how she's facing you--the more full-on she faces you, supposedly the better she likes you and if you're facing her the same way then things are going well. Good eye contact, though if she looks away nervously alot, she may just be shy. Flirty is good, though she may be flirting with other guys alot too, so watch that if you're interested in her. Is she interested in what you have to say? Women are a lot more subtle than men generally, so that which looks like it doesn't mean much, may mean a lot.
Monster Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 She may behave differently around you than she does around others, for example, she may appear quite shy around you when she is normally quite outgoing. She may find ways to run into you. She may drop hints that she is single.
deux ex machina Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Twilight, I can't think of anything to add that the other posters haven't. It's usually subtle, but after a while you can start to tell...because as long as she feels welcome and safe in showing her interest, the signals should become pretty consistent.
Author TwilightSky Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 Twilight, I can't think of anything to add that the other posters haven't. It's usually subtle, but after a while you can start to tell...because as long as she feels welcome and safe in showing her interest, the signals should become pretty consistent. Thanks for the info, but I also had another question. When a girl (through her friends or otherwise) states she is interested, is this like "mocking?" because I have heard about that type of scenario. Bascically, should I take that kind of stuff seriously?
Author TwilightSky Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 Anyone want to take a stab at that one?
boogieboy Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 If you are still wondering, its because you havent seen any signs from her. Just go up to her and say "Hi". You will see body language immediately - good or bad. Thats the only way you will know for sure. If you wait for her to make the first move, she will lose interest.
Author TwilightSky Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 If you are still wondering, its because you havent seen any signs from her. Just go up to her and say "Hi". You will see body language immediately - good or bad. Thats the only way you will know for sure. If you wait for her to make the first move, she will lose interest. This is my fault, I phrased that initial post wrong. I should've said "general dilemma." I don't want to mistake friendly for romantic interest.
Author TwilightSky Posted October 17, 2009 Author Posted October 17, 2009 So, when a women expresses interest, is it always serious?
xpaperxcutx Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 First of all, avoid hearsay. When it comes to relationships and the likes, people are nosy and like to to invade personal spaces just to get info on who likes who, who hates who... etc. The best thing you can do is gauge a woman's response when you talk to her face to face. Body language is also a plus.
EcstasyX6 Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 No. I'm naturally flirtatious. My ex noticed it and says that I'm charming. Some women are just that way. I think the earlier posters are correct. If you see her (someone you've noticed) repeatedly and she seems to direct her eye contact, smiles, and touching toward you, and not to guys around you in general, then most likely she likes you.
Author TwilightSky Posted October 17, 2009 Author Posted October 17, 2009 No. I'm naturally flirtatious. My ex noticed it and says that I'm charming. Some women are just that way. I think the earlier posters are correct. If you see her (someone you've noticed) repeatedly and she seems to direct her eye contact, smiles, and touching toward you, and not to guys around you in general, then most likely she likes you. This I understand. But, when a girl says she likes you (unsolicited), should that be taken seriously, or no? And, while I haven't paid attention if a girl is flirtatious with other guys (not in general), how would you tell if a flirtatious girl likes you? I mean, flirtatious girls have to express genuine interest in some guys, right?
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