drivesmecrazy3 Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Hi, I frequently go with either my brother or friends to bars/clubs and there are always girls/groups of girls that interest me. But the thing is, I really have NO idea what to say if I approached anyone. What are some things that you guys would say? I dont want to just be like uhh.. hi, and then stand there looking like a retard. Im usually a very nervous person so i get alot of social anxiety.
XuserX Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Well you could try, nice shoes wanna f^ck ? or on the other end, just walk over say hi my name is ___ I saw you from over __ and you seemed interesting so i thought i would intraduce myself. Or just tell her you lost your medal of honor and need help finding it. any of those, and everything in the middle.
dreamergrl Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 "I lost my phone number, can I have yours?" No really don't.. just introduce yourself and let the conversation flow. Don't be over eager. You could talk about the band that's playing, or the music. You could say "this place seems pretty cool, are you from around here"?
alphamale Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 What are some things that you guys would say? "Hi...my name is elmer fudd. I own a mansion und a yacht"
Lizzie60 Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Hi, I frequently go with either my brother or friends to bars/clubs and there are always girls/groups of girls that interest me. But the thing is, I really have NO idea what to say if I approached anyone. What are some things that you guys would say? I dont want to just be like uhh.. hi, and then stand there looking like a retard. Im usually a very nervous person so i get alot of social anxiety. My advice.. before you do any kind of moves.. or walk to a table.. study the girl first... flirt a little with her.. if she rolls her eyes and look the other way.. not good... if she smiles back... good sign... Don't just walk to a table and introduce yourself.. you can be bitterly surprised.. FLIRT first..
sumdude Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 "Hi...my name is elmer fudd. I own a mansion und a yacht" LOL!! Good one!
Left in a Lurch Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 I think you have to be prepared a little. Some of the suggestions posted were: "hi my name is ___ I saw you from over __ and you seemed interesting so i thought i would intraduce myself." " hi my name is drivesmecrazy3(lol), i think your an attractive woman , can i have the honor of buying you a drink and getting to know you a little better?" "this place seems pretty cool, are you from around here"? I think the problem is they are just opening lines and women won't reply something like, "Oh, hi, thanks for noticing. You seem interesting too." You're probably going to get a response that throws you off a bit, you never get a nerf toss response from them that opens into an easy conversation. " hi my name is drivesmecrazy3(lol), i think your an attractive woman , can i have the honor of buying you a drink and getting to know you a little better?" -Answer: "You'll notice I already have a drink in my hand and it is full. The honorable thing to do would be to wait until my drink is empty before you ask." "this place seems pretty cool, are you from around here"? -Answer: "Yeah, this place is a cool dump. If you think I am from around here, does that mean you think I am dumpy looking?" "hi my name is ___ I saw you from over __ and you seemed interesting so i thought i would intraduce myself." -Answer: "Oh yeah, I am interesting huh? You could tell just by my looks that I am not boring? What exactly makes me interesting?" Another potential answer to all 3 would be, "Ha. Are you serious!?" All of these can be said in a flirting way, but the tough part is not the opening line, but how you think on your feet and are prepared to reply to a sarcastic responses, especially if they are with a group that laughs at you when they give their response. My old reliable that works 50% of the time but usually gets at least a funny response when it doesn't is when you have a group of say 3 women at a table, send them a drink- one drink, 3 straws. Sometimes they'll laugh and come over and sometimes they'll laugh it off but you never really get an ugly rejection and it is a safe conversation starter with low risk.
boogieboy Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Put together some interesting topics to talk about and bring that arsenal to the bar. So go asking personal questions until she starts to ask you personal questions. Or you can start with "Hey can you imagine being kidnapped and held captive for 18 years?"
BobSacamento Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Use this flawless line: "Hey baby I got two tickets to Nickleback, you interested."
TheLoneSock Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 (edited) I can see how simply saying hi and then standing there looking like a 'retard' would be detrimental to your situation. Maybe follow up that hi with telling them your name, smiling and touching their arm lightly or something? Give a little compliment and talk about WHATEVER the hell comes to mind. Unless what comes to your mind is who would win in a fight between ninjas and samurai or something (really, I've seen that happen). It also helps to avoid approaching girls that haven't taken notice of you. Wait for a girl to eye **** you and then go for it. Think of eye contact as her way of saying "come talk to me already damnit!". Sounds primitive but that's because it is. Making a connection with a girl was never meant to be hard. I learned that the hard way, but early thankfully (16). Edit: I mention touching them gently because this is a form of communication. It works with all people, not just women. It's a way to show them you have good intentions. But if you do it with a girl you're interested in make sure you have warm hands. Edited October 15, 2009 by TheLoneSock
Johnny M Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 well, you could say " hi my name is drivesmecrazy3(lol), i think your an attractive woman , can i have the honor of buying you a drink and getting to know you a little better?" worse she can do is be a scum bag and laugh in your face and say hell to the no. or she can be mutually interested and say YES. Worst idea ever. Never, ever buy a woman a drink as a way of introducing yourself (especially if the woman is hot). She'll just assume you are another awkward loser who lacks social skills and thus needs to "buy" her attention. And I'm not even talking about bar skanks who hang out in bars for the sole purpose of getting free drinks from naive guys. Find a way to introduce yourself without whipping out the valet.
mogul Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Worst idea ever. Never, ever buy a woman a drink as a way of introducing yourself (especially if the woman is hot). She'll just assume you are another awkward loser who lacks social skills and thus needs to "buy" her attention. +1 I only start asking the girl for drinks if we had fun on the dance floor, mutual, genuine attraction and interest and would offer a drink to get her away from friends/dance floor and lead her to a more quiet place to talk and alone time. The ideal situation for me is if I were to see a girl on the dance floor with an overly eager/aggressive loser grinding on her, I would just simply put my hand out and have her take my hand and start dancing and often joke about "how much fun she was having with the other guy or if he was her boyfriend". Other than that, you jokingly backing up on her on the dance floor wouldn't hurt or introducing yourself "Hi, i dont mean to bother you, but you have a beautiful smile/seem like an interesting person to get to know" and exchange names and go from there. Hope this helps..
BookerT Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Conventional chat up lines don't work unless a guy is good looking in the first place. Of course confidence is key but an average guy using a conventional line is way too obvious. Either go in telling a ridiculous story, or the line alpha male used, and at least crack the girls up.
AD1980 Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Conventional chat up lines don't work unless a guy is good looking in the first place. Of course confidence is key but an average guy using a conventional line is way too obvious. Either go in telling a ridiculous story, or the line alpha male used, and at least crack the girls up. Well the key is if shes attracted to you then as long as you dont come off a complete creep you got a shot and she may laught a a joke corny or not..If you approach and shes not attracted shes gonna be guarded from the get go and just praying to god you evnetually leave her alone..
tkgirl Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 well, you could say " hi my name is drivesmecrazy3(lol), i think your an attractive woman , can i have the honor of buying you a drink and getting to know you a little better?" worse she can do is be a scum bag and laugh in your face and say hell to the no. or she can be mutually interested and say YES. this "line" creeps me out... too formal or something... I'd be saying hell to the no fo sho! does that make me a scum bag?
mogul Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 +1 I only start asking the girl for drinks if we had fun on the dance floor, mutual, genuine attraction and interest and would offer a drink to get her away from friends/dance floor and lead her to a more quiet place to talk and alone time. The ideal situation for me is if I were to see a girl on the dance floor with an overly eager/aggressive loser grinding on her, I would just simply put my hand out and have her take my hand and start dancing and often joke about "how much fun she was having with the other guy or if he was her boyfriend". Other than that, you jokingly backing up on her on the dance floor wouldn't hurt or introducing yourself "Hi, i dont mean to bother you, but you have a beautiful smile/seem like an interesting person to get to know" and exchange names and go from there. Hope this helps.. Maybe I need to start a thread for this. For the ladies of ls, out of curiosity, would my approach work with you? What is the preferred approach for yall?
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