littlebittle Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Well my ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago, and it's been very hard to let go. When we broke up, we said we would continue hanging out just as frequently, because we're so close. At first he wanted to continue holding hands and even kissing, but we put an end to that pretty quickly when I told him how confusing that was. We continue to have sleepovers and cuddle, he's still very affectionate, and we still go out to eat and he still insists on paying for me. Maybe he feels guilty for hurting me. We've been having these marathon talking sessions when we hang out. He can't be in a relationship right now, things just went too fast for both of us and we both became scared and emotionally closed off. Since breaking up, we've become much more open with our feelings. I saw him 2 days ago and I told him that I really don't know if I can be his friend right now. Everything has been so emotionally draining and I can't focus on other things in my life. It's also just been very painful. When I said this, he broke down and cried for about 10 minutes, it was awful. We talked and talked and finally agreed that if we can't hang out without crying, then we'll have to take a break. Neither of us want to do that, we are so attached to each other. We both have close circles of friends, but we are best friends to each other and share everything. Since Sunday I have felt better about things. It seems more settled to me now - we're just not going to be in a relationship now or anytime soon. He was very clear about that, and it was what I needed to hear, because I was so confused by his ambiguity. But now HE seems upset. When I told him I was feeling better, he said, "That's ironic, considering I told you I couldn't be in a relationship with you anytime soon." I guess we probably shouldn't hang out for a while, huh? Has anyone else been through anything similar with someone? It's such a mess.
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