GroupFitness Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 (edited) Ugh!, why does this always happen to me? A few months back, I barely knew who this guy was. He had introduced himself to me once in the elevator, I didn't even pay attention. I ran into him a few times after that and did not recognize him. Going about my business until I ran into him again and he re-introduced himself. Since then we make small talk when opportunity allows. He's my neighbor and he's given me a ride to the train once or twice. Anyway, the gist of it is that we are just neighbors who say hello to each other sporadically yet I have developed this massive crush on him. I see him every morning, we ride the same train and I find myself getting all dressed up each morning, looking my best for when I happen to see him. Half the time he doesn't even talk to me because he is occupied with conversations with his friends. But I try to position myself strategically just where he/they can see me, I'm so pathetic. I think about him through the day just hoping that I will maybe see him in the halls or at the gym. Anyway, enough is enough, I need to get rid of the crush. I figured I should just stop taking the same train as he does. I mean, out of sight is out of mind right? It will involve re-arranging my whole schedule, which sucks but I really need to get over this crush and stop caring what this guy thinks of me. Any other tips for getting over a crush? I don't know why he had to come talk to me in the first place, I was doing just fine when I didn't know who he was. Edited October 14, 2009 by GroupFitness
tigressA Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Why do you need to get rid of the crush? Do you know that he isn't interested in you? Why don't you try initiating a conversation or two instead of waiting for him to do it?
Author GroupFitness Posted October 14, 2009 Author Posted October 14, 2009 Well.., I need to get rid of the crush because I'm finding that I'm devoting more brain space to it than it merits. It's just a crush, they are frivolous and should be fleeting. I shouldn't be planning my wardrobe nights before just so some guy can think I'm cute...it's silly. I do not want a relationship with this guy, friendship or otherwise. He's just a neighbor and I want to leave it at that. I do not even want to remotely care if he exists. So how do I mentally rewind to a few months back when I didn't know who he was.
Skump Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Anyway, enough is enough, I need to get rid of the crush. I figured I should just stop taking the same train as he does. I mean, out of sight is out of mind right? It will involve re-arranging my whole schedule, which sucks but I really need to get over this crush and stop caring what this guy thinks of me. ... Or here's another idea: Ask him out on a date. The reluctance of women to approach men is colossally maladaptive. Trying to "indirectly" stimulate interest by strategic placement, dress, etc. is both unreliable (many men won't notice the signals or interpret them as a girl merely being "nice" or flirty) and juvenile. I have a new acronym for women of the 21st Century on the dating scene: JAHOFFS - Just Ask Him Out For F*ck's Sake!
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