DustySaltus Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 I'm just getting back out there after a serious (engaged) relationship didn't work out. I like this one girl in particular but i don't know if it's because I miss the attention or I really do like her. So I had a few questions for people who have been in my situation or similar: 1) Do rebound relationships ever work? 2) Are rebound relationships more about trying to get over your EX more than really liking the new person? 3) What percentage of rebound relationships actually work (In your opinion)? 4) When rebound relationships don't work, what percentage of people try and get back into some form of contact with the EX? Thanks for your input. -D
TeacupMovinON Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Hmmm....there are definates about rebound relationships. When I got out of my last serious relationship (it lasted a couple of years) my ex had a new GF two days later. He rebounded. They have been together now for over nine months so it has proven to me that they can last. I am not sure how great the relationship is though, he has tried to be intimate with me on several occassions and still says things to me that I am sure the new GF would not like. I would not rebound just for the sake of easing the pain. You will hurt someone else in the process. Make friends, even friends with benefits if you so chose, but dont promise to be committed if you are not ready.
Author DustySaltus Posted October 14, 2009 Author Posted October 14, 2009 Hmmm....there are definates about rebound relationships. When I got out of my last serious relationship (it lasted a couple of years) my ex had a new GF two days later. He rebounded. They have been together now for over nine months so it has proven to me that they can last. I am not sure how great the relationship is though, he has tried to be intimate with me on several occassions and still says things to me that I am sure the new GF would not like. I would not rebound just for the sake of easing the pain. You will hurt someone else in the process. Make friends, even friends with benefits if you so chose, but dont promise to be committed if you are not ready. Did you break up with him or vice versa? Do you think he was invloved with her while you guys were together? Thanks for your advice.
Soul Bear Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Hi Dusty, Glad to see you seem to be doing better now. I'll be completely honest with you here. All your questions in the first post are open ended, they could go either way. REMEMBER- No 2 relationships or relationship situations are ever exactly the same.
TeacupMovinON Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Did you break up with him or vice versa? Do you think he was invloved with her while you guys were together? Thanks for your advice. I broke up with him. I thought we would take some time to work out our problems. His new girlfriend was totally unexpected! While I do not believe she was in the picture before we broke up, crazier things have happened.
Author DustySaltus Posted October 14, 2009 Author Posted October 14, 2009 I broke up with him. I thought we would take some time to work out our problems. His new girlfriend was totally unexpected! While I do not believe she was in the picture before we broke up, crazier things have happened. So you broke up with him with the intention of getting back with him a later time, when things might have been resolved?
tigressA Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 My most recent--and longest--relationship was a rebound. I had been unceremoniously dumped at a frat party by a guy I'd been dating for a month and a half. Less than two weeks later I was attached to my current ex. I knew that it was a rebound, but we concentrated on getting to know each other instead of getting physical. We waited four months before having sex. We were together for a year and nine months. I broke up with him over the summer. Though he was my longest relationship, we did have our share of issues--I had cheated on him less than a year into it while drunk, and I had contemplated breaking up with him several times before I had finally done it.
GroupFitness Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Hi Dusty, Glad to see you seem to be doing better now. I'll be completely honest with you here. All your questions in the first post are open ended, they could go either way. REMEMBER- No 2 relationships or relationship situations are ever exactly the same. Exactly!, not all rebound relationships work out but it doesn't mean that some don't. Honesty is always the key. Be honest about your intentions and your feelings with your reboundee. Everything else will figure itself out.
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