C-i-C-u Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Wow C-I-C-U I thought people like you only existed among women. This is a very American thing, Asian women who only want to date white guys, petite women who only want to date people over 6 feet tall, and now fat guys who only date skinny women. I don't think people who don't bring the trait they desire should complain when they don't find someone like them. Wow cognac reading comprehension isn't a strength for you. Are you not the little guy who makes threads complaining about how women don't pay any attention to you and that you are too short so thats why women ignore you? What did I say? I said I would never date a fat girl who is out of breath whenever she walks. Does that mean I wouldn't ever date a girl who is slightly out of shape? No. I stated that. Learn how to read, cognac.
cognac Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Wow cognac reading comprehension isn't a strength for you. Are you not the little guy who makes threads complaining about how women don't pay any attention to you and that you are too short so thats why women ignore you? What did I say? I said I would never date a fat girl who is out of breath whenever she walks. Does that mean I wouldn't ever date a girl who is slightly out of shape? No. I stated that. Learn how to read, cognac. This doesn't take away from the fact that you, an unapologetic fat person, criticize a woman for putting on weight.
trueblue72ny Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 For those of you not familiar with my previous threads, I have turned over a new leaf of sorts. I am in love with someone but have decided to put it on the back burner. I am trying again with the online world in order to meet someone. I am going about it with a new attitude. I have only posted on more legit sites (have learned my lesson from bad previous ones). I am approaching it as cheerfully as possible, just being friendly but not too friendly to others. I think I have everything down as it should be, after all I think most everyone (man or woman) just skims the photos without reading descriptions and just clicks on whoever looks hottest. And I am not sending winks or emails to anyone, they have to approach me with an email not just a wink or something. But what I can't get past is the fact that everyone (I'm talking just the guys that is) looks, well, fat. And not just an extra 20 lbs, I mean like 50+. In the past, I have met up with guys who have turned out to be fat, not wanting to seem shallow. But, unfortunately, I am. I've been accused of only going for attractive guys, pretty boys even. I'm sure they get more attention from women than the average, for sure, but is it so bad that I ask that they be attractive as well? I take care of my appearance, or try to anyway. I wonder if there are just as many guys who don't. Am I being shallow? How can I get past this if so? i dont think your being shallow. i feel the same way. i want a nice looking girl who takes care of herself just like i do. what do they say? numbers dont lie, 2s go with 2's, 3's with 3's, 4's with 4's, etc., maybe you will find a 1 with a 3 because 3 has money. that is shallow. and being a guy i will tell you it annoys me to no end to see good looking women with ugly guys. i just think ewww. i feel sorry for her.
SummerLady Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Not sure if its shallow really. You have overcome being heavy so you may feel a weakness or indifference toward heavy potential dates and if that is the case you should just go for what you want. I may be shallow. I only would date men that were 6'2-6'4. Call it shallow, call it a fetish. I know what I like. HA! Not kidding.......
WineCountry Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 For those of you not familiar with my previous threads, I have turned over a new leaf of sorts. I am in love with someone but have decided to put it on the back burner. I am trying again with the online world in order to meet someone. I am going about it with a new attitude. I have only posted on more legit sites (have learned my lesson from bad previous ones). I am approaching it as cheerfully as possible, just being friendly but not too friendly to others. I think I have everything down as it should be, after all I think most everyone (man or woman) just skims the photos without reading descriptions and just clicks on whoever looks hottest. And I am not sending winks or emails to anyone, they have to approach me with an email not just a wink or something. But what I can't get past is the fact that everyone (I'm talking just the guys that is) looks, well, fat. And not just an extra 20 lbs, I mean like 50+. In the past, I have met up with guys who have turned out to be fat, not wanting to seem shallow. But, unfortunately, I am. I've been accused of only going for attractive guys, pretty boys even. I'm sure they get more attention from women than the average, for sure, but is it so bad that I ask that they be attractive as well? I take care of my appearance, or try to anyway. I wonder if there are just as many guys who don't. Am I being shallow? How can I get past this if so? Ok..I read the highlighted part, and I am a bit confused. You say you are in love with someone, but you are putting that on the back burner in order to go looking for someone online. Huh? If you are already in love, why are you looking for someone else?? Is this a one sided love thing..where you are in love with someone who doesn't love you, or doesn't even know you exist?
zicke Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Of course men age, and there are a ton of over-weight, ugly old dudes around. But the reality is that it's generally easier for a guy to maintain his looks than it is for a girl, and the dating scene is a lot kinder to guys than girls once they hit their late twenties. This may not be fair in some cosmic sense, but reality is deaf to politically correct pieties. LATE 20's? Are you delusional? Late 20's is now so old for women that they "better settle'? Seriously, who do you hang out with that late 20's is over the hill for women, thus making is difficult for them to find partners? In addition, I would love to know your theory on how much easier it is for men to maintain their looks as opposed to women. I have to wonder if most men with this thought process just plain ole wish this were the case. Because reality is that no one is washed up in their late 20's, least of all late 50's even. Your reality is not the reality that most people live in. Jees, now I feel sorry for women in their late 20's who have to listen to that kind of tripe. I hope that they know better.
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