Lying eyes Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 You should be friends with my STBX. The only saving grace I have for you is that you both screwed around on each other, so clearly neither of you value monogomy or honesty. I think you should divorce your husband and get together with your young stud and see how long it lasts before he bores of you. Seriously you people that refuse to take responsibility for your own affairs make me sick. If you put as much effort into your relationship as you did your affair you might have been able to save your marriage.
jnj express Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 In your situation get a divorce----you are going to get half of everything since you got married, including half of his retirement, and half of the house---so you should have available finances---get a job---become independent, and then do as you please----your mge., is dead, your H. is a controlling jerk, who should be single---stop feeling sorry for yourself, and get your divorce and be free
road Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 rozzie How does having an affair help improve a spouse provide a better marriage? What do you call a woman that has a relationship because the man has money? What you should do is tell your BH that you are sleeping with the OM. Your BH deserves the truth so he can make an informed decision as to whether he should stay married to a wife that is having an affair. Whether you stay married or D, you need to dump your OM. Why would you want a relationship with a man that has the low morals to cheat. They cheat with you they will cheat on you. Life shows this to be true time after time.
JumpinJimmy Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 RB, you are a gold digger. You mentioned money 3 separate times in 2 posts. Sexually he satisfies me completely, financially he cannot provide what my husband does. If I go with my boyfriend, I am unsure of my future, If i stay with my husband my future is financially secure, but I will be unhappy. What should I do? His only downfall is his financial status is not stable, financially he is cannot provide the same stability as my husband does. Your own words, not others, and you only back up when called out on it. I will be honest, you're not making yourself look very good, so I would love to hear his side of the story. I just love how some spouses justify cheating...you can justify a divorce with this, but not cheating. You now have as bad of a character and integrity as your husband. Good job stepping in the gutter with him.
scatterd Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I am wondering if you ever told him if he did not stop going to the bars and try harder on the marriage that you was not going to put up with it.I would of said shape up or ship out.No money is worth the heart ache.Now that you have cheated you are on the same level as him.What do you have to save.two wrongs does not make a right.Why is it now that you have cheated your thinking about leaving I would have wanted out long before this if it was that bad.Not trying to be mean but I dont know what you have worth saving besides his income,Its hard to start all over you will get half though so do you both a favor and move on live life and be happy.Good luck.
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