tara.tang Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Im 21 and my bf is 22. We're seniors in college and have been "officially" together for 3 1/2 months, though we were dating for 2 months before we were official while I was away studying abroad. We had a small fight when he got really busy and stopped talking to me as much. It wasnt terrible. We usually hang out alot on the weekends due to our schedules and a little bit one day during the week. But when he got busy I would go for 3 days at a time during the week before he would initiate contact with me. This esp made me mad since Im always busy and make time for him. In fact, Im busy when he texts/calls alot but I always answer otherwise I might not hear from him for awhile. I felt he might be losing interest even though I know this happens when the "newness" of a relationship wears off. I believe the opening line of the argument was "Your feelings for me arent strong" from me...but he may not remember that. We talked about it all and he asked me if it bothered me when he dropped off the face of the earth for days at a time and I said "yes" Everything is back to normal now. We got together 2 days after our fight, then the next day when I went home for break he texted me from a cab during his field trip saying he was thinking of me and called the next day. Now, I havent talked to him in 2 days but we're getting together tomorrow. When we saw each other 2 days after our fight we were playing video games at his place. I had had one drink (and one drink only!) However when I drink anything at all he calls me a "drunkie" I was being very silly and jokingly said " I looooooooove alcohol" My bf then said "Is that all you love?" I couldnt think of anything else he would be implying, and thought if he meant an object that I love, wouldnt ask it that way. So I said "woah way to put pressure on me, Ive never said that to a guy before" He knows hes my first serious relationship. He didnt say "I didnt mean that" Just kinda smiled and went back to the video game. I feel that Im really attached to him but Im not sure its really love I feel, so I dont want to say it yet. Plus, I think the guy should say it first. Was I right in thinking he was implying if I loved him? If he was implying this, does this mean he loves me? Could he just be gauging my feelings for him? Im not there yet
prettybaby Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 You won't need to ask this if you're still together in a year. Don't even worry about that at this point. Just take your relationship as it comes, step by step, and make the best of it. The rest will fold out naturally with time.
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