Foolish99 Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Heres my situation... I went on a date with the gorgeous women, and our first date was wonderful. We went to have drinks at a wine bar, enjoyed great conversation, walked through a park afterwards and even held hands. The night ended and we exchanged cheek kisses and setup for a second date. On our second date we went out to dinner, enjoyed great conversation again. We went out walking around the city. I shared my coat with her since it was cold and was gripping my arm as we walked around the city. She told me that night that she has not laughed and enjoyed herself so much on a date in a long time. I walked her to her car and we hugged and called it a night. We also set up plans for a third date. The day comes for the third date and I called her but only got her voicemail. I left a message but she never got back to me. It has now been two and a half days but no reply back to me. I still want to attempt that third date but not sure what to do from here. Im getting mixed signals from my friends on what TO do. Any advice?
Bleeve Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 I might try to call one more time. Just in case something serious came up. But that is it. If she responds with a really really good excuse then fine. If she doesn't respond then you have to let het go and move on.
BCCA Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Its weird that you kissed her on the cheek after the first date, and then only went with a hug the next time. Did she make it seem like she only wanted a hug? Honestly, seems like she lost interest. 2.5 days is a lot of time to go by if she was really interested in seeing you again. I would leave it alone, but if you absolutely have to, call ONE more time. If you dont hear back again, consider it a done deal.
dreamergrl Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Maybe she's dating another guys, and perhaps she fancies another one more? I would have gotten back to a guy by now if I was interested.
northstar1 Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Heres my situation... I went on a date with the gorgeous women, and our first date was wonderful. We went to have drinks at a wine bar, enjoyed great conversation, walked through a park afterwards and even held hands. The night ended and we exchanged cheek kisses and setup for a second date. On our second date we went out to dinner, enjoyed great conversation again. We went out walking around the city. I shared my coat with her since it was cold and was gripping my arm as we walked around the city. She told me that night that she has not laughed and enjoyed herself so much on a date in a long time. I walked her to her car and we hugged and called it a night. We also set up plans for a third date. The day comes for the third date and I called her but only got her voicemail. I left a message but she never got back to me. It has now been two and a half days but no reply back to me. I still want to attempt that third date but not sure what to do from here. Im getting mixed signals from my friends on what TO do. Any advice? So, did the day for the 3rd date come and go? Or were you trying to arrange it? It's early on, she might be busy, or is multidating at the same time. However, based on experience, she may have lost interest or met someone else. If you are really interested, leave her another message and then give up.
DustySaltus Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 The ratio can never get over 2 calls to one party without a response, without looking somewhat naive or desperate. However, often there is a reason to be confused. With that being said, at the point of a third date if she doesn't respond with in a day or two, I would think it would be safe to say something didn't click. By all means call her one more time, but no more than that. Good Luck. Side Note: Things do happen, but if she was really into you she would give you at least the courtesy of a text message....
Author Foolish99 Posted October 13, 2009 Author Posted October 13, 2009 Its weird that you kissed her on the cheek after the first date, and then only went with a hug the next time. Did she make it seem like she only wanted a hug? Honestly, seems like she lost interest. 2.5 days is a lot of time to go by if she was really interested in seeing you again. I would leave it alone, but if you absolutely have to, call ONE more time. If you dont hear back again, consider it a done deal. well it was kind of spur of the moment hug cause we were waiting for her Valet and I didn't want to make it uncomfortable for her. She did seem interested during the whole date and I know she's a really busy person.
Double Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 We also set up plans for a third date. The day comes for the third date and I called her but only got her voicemail. I left a message but she never got back to me. It has now been two and a half days but no reply back to me. So I read this as she completely blew off your date, that was already planned, without a phone call, text, or email. In other words, she stood you up. Correct? You've already left her a message and she hasn't gotten back to you. So either she was in some kind of terrible accident and is unconscious in a hospital, or else she's terribly rude and avoiding you. Don't call her again.
BCCA Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 well it was kind of spur of the moment hug cause we were waiting for her Valet and I didn't want to make it uncomfortable for her. She did seem interested during the whole date and I know she's a really busy person. I think youre rationalizing a bit. When were you supposed to go out, and when did you call her? I dont think anyone who is interested lets more than 12 hours go by without calling, regardless. 2.5 days is a really long time.
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