xbadnews4u Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 This is a pretty lengthy story, so i'd like to thank those who are about to read in advance. Thank you. Last week my ex girlfriend (nicole) sends me an instant message saying she has some of my clothes and told me she was going to be in town for fall break (Saturday - Tuesday) so if I wanted them to let her know. I haven't talked or had any contact with nicole in almost a year. I told her "yeah, sure" and we started small talk about some things, mostly how we've been and how things are going. I asked her what she had of mine, and she named the clothes specifically just moments after I asked. I give her my phone number since the one I had while i was with her changed. After the small talk I didn't talk to her the next 4 or 5 days, then on Saturday I get a text message while i'm at work saying she was in town and if I wanted her to stop by later to give my clothes back to me to let her know. So after work I give her a call and she swings by, she hands me the clothes in a pretty nice coca-cola bag and we sit down on my porch and light up a couple cigarettes and start talking. We talked for a good hour, mostly about what's been going on lately, politics, religion, etc. After a while I invited her in cause it was getting pretty chilly outside and we sat on the couch watching tv (it's one of her favorite things to do). Now at first I was approaching this situation as a friends-only mindset, but the more and more we talked, the more and more old and new feelings started to take over. She broke it off with me, but it's been 2 years since the breakup and I don't harbor much or any resentment, it just wasn't working out at the time. Well anyways we spent from 11:20pm to 3:00 AM together just talking. I didn't realize how much time had passed, and she didn't either. So after realizing the time we decide to call it a night. I walked her out, we hugged, and said goodnight. The next day (Sunday) I had to work but she didn't call and I didn't either. On Monday, I had the day off and I gave her a call around 7 asking her if she wanted to hang out. She said she was at her mom's friends house with her mom and that she'd give me a call later when she got home. about 4 hours later i get a call from her saying she just got home and asked if I still wanted to hang out. I told her it really didn't matter and if she wanted to come over she could. She told me it was up to me since I had classes tomorrow. (A sidenote: she never really like making decisions, but i still don't know if this was an avoidance or just a personality reaction). She then asked if I wanted to drive around with her and I say sure. So she shows up at my house and I get into her car and we start talking and the conversation mostly stayed pretty constant. We went and got some drive thru food, it was around 12 AM. After we ate we watched some tv in my living room and talked a little and I asked if she wanted to go on another drive. She said yeah, that she wanted to keep on driving but it was probably best for her to stop so we could have ate. I told her i'd drive and she said okay. While we were out taking a drive again we talked but not as much as we talked on Saturday. There were a few silent moments and short answers from both of us. She told me she had a doctors appointment early in the morning too so I took a mental note of this. After about an hour of patchy conversation, she says she's probably going to head back to her moms. We hung out for about an hour before she says this. I told her "yeah it's getting late and I have school tomorrow too", to lighten it up a little bit. I told her to give me a call sometime when she visits town, she told me she would. (Another side note, besides her mom and I, she hasn't tried to contact anyone else in town according to her when I asked her if she wanted to go to a party or hang out with some other people) So I took her back to my place to get her car, we said a brief goodbye and hugged and she left. After all this i'm kind of lost to what just happened. -Conclusion: On Saturday I felt like things were going pretty well. They were going so well that I started to develop feelings for her again. But on Monday, I felt like things have taken a turn, I stopped having that feeling that everything was going well. I felt a distance that felt unsettling towards the end, like after we said goodbye I felt like I wasn't going to see her again even though she told me she'd give me a call the next time she's in town. I understand that some ex's pop out of nowhere and just want to be friends and i respect that, but the distance i felt even felt like that wasn't a motive of hers. It's a weird feeling and I felt like I got mixed signals between the 2 days we hung out. I really don't know what just happened and anyone's input/advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time in reading this.
BCCA Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Take it for what it was, you guys got to catch up. Doesn't seem like she wanted much more than that, probably just to make sure you were alright and things were going well. I wouldnt read too much into it.
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