whattodonow12 Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 my heart will never mend? I am working very hard to do the right thing for all involved. I know that it will get better in time, but it is definitely hard to break the addiction right now. It is not just the sexual part. It is the part of talking to each other ... knowing everything about one another.. the complete intimacy. I really, really, really want to have these feelings for someone that is available to me. I feel as if I have so much going on. Being separated from my H is hard too, that is for the best for other reasons. But, it is just one more thing pulling at me. He wants me back. I just feel so vulnerable in every way
tami-chan Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 my heart will never mend? I am working very hard to do the right thing for all involved. I know that it will get better in time, but it is definitely hard to break the addiction right now. It is not just the sexual part. It is the part of talking to each other ... knowing everything about one another.. the complete intimacy. I really, really, really want to have these feelings for someone that is available to me. I feel as if I have so much going on. Being separated from my H is hard too, that is for the best for other reasons. But, it is just one more thing pulling at me. He wants me back. I just feel so vulnerable in every way But it will and you have to believe that. Don't be too hard on yourself, you are still mourning. I would encourage you though, to make sure that you are taking care of yourself----this is the one time you want to make sure how you feel inside does not mirror how you look inside---so go get a new haircut, dye job, get a pedi/mani-pamper yourself...and yes, go get that 5-inch stilletto you have been admiring in the show window!
Author whattodonow12 Posted October 13, 2009 Author Posted October 13, 2009 Thanks, Tami I am planning on getting a mani-pedi this week. I am working at trying to do things for myself. It does help.
happyguy Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 hey what12, my heart (the red heart-shaped one, not the one that keeps me alive) has survived two double-bypasses and as you now know, I seem to be in love again and as weird as it is right now, I feel an awesome high. So i think that my heart is definitely on the mend - I am not quite there yet, but I can see the light, and it's pretty bright. I think that we all have a guiding light inside, just like the one you shared in your reply to my post. Guess that's why we're here, huh? To share our experiences Like i thought i'd never be happy again, but most of the time I am. That's why i'm happyguy. So hang in, things happen that we least expect... happyguy has spoken
scaredinlove Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 my heart will never mend? I am working very hard to do the right thing for all involved. I know that it will get better in time, but it is definitely hard to break the addiction right now. It is not just the sexual part. It is the part of talking to each other ... knowing everything about one another.. the complete intimacy. I really, really, really want to have these feelings for someone that is available to me. I feel as if I have so much going on. Being separated from my H is hard too, that is for the best for other reasons. But, it is just one more thing pulling at me. He wants me back. I just feel so vulnerable in every way Your heart will mend, it will take time. The first weeks are hell..You feel like someone has died. You hurt all over. It opens a a pandora box and you will suffer for every little thing that ever happen in your life . You may feel angry, afraid , and hurt all the same time. It will come and waves and you will feel better from times to times but you feel like crap most at the time. Soon the good waves will become more frequent and the bad waves will ease up. First 3 monthe are the worse. Go out , see other people , go to church..Do what it takes to make yourself get better. You memory will be your worse enemy, for most of the time and you will wish you could erase it. But as time goes by it will all pass. At six month it will feel bearable and you will become more rational. You will start to see the future and life without him and be OK with that. From there on it just get better and better. It is hard, it seems impossible but you can do it. It will be much better. When it become a year after you will wonder why you ever thought you could not leave without that person..... Been there, done it and survived. Best of luck for you sweety.
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