lemondrops Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Hello, I'm hoping for some advice on how I should proceed in this situation: There's a girl in one of my classes that I've been getting very close to over the past semester who has a friend with a huge crush on me. This girl has been telling my girl lies about me in order to break us apart and ruin things between us. I've tried to explain to my girl the situation, her motives, and that the lies are not true, all the while knowing that the more of a situation I made out of it, the worse I'd make myself look. She seemed to understand, but at the same time I could tell that she was becoming cautiously suspicious of me too. Then on top of all this, I said something stupid to her on a totally unrelated matter, and she got mad at me. She didn't talk to me for a few days (3), until I saw her in class and apologized wholeheartedly. She said she was over it, but she has still been distant and hasn't returned the few calls and texts I've sent. I'm worried that I'm losing her, when except for a dumb comment about her new hairdo, I haven't done anything wrong. I've apologized repeatedly for my stupidity, and decided to lay low for a few more days and not contact her to avoid looking clingy...even skipping class for the rest of the week. But I don't know what to do after that, especially when I'm going to see her at a party this weekend. I feel like I want to go off and tell her everything I think and know about her friend, but I'm afraid of making the situation worse. Especially if shes only mad about the comment still (it has been a week)Should I just keep quiet, avoid her, and hope she calls? I just want to get back to me and her on good terms.
lora22 Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 First and foremost, I would suggest not letting a girl, or this "unfortunate situation" get in the way of your education; i.e. stop skipping class in order to avoid her. Second, you are awarding this girl way too much importance (she comes before class??). Stop doing that. She should enhance your already full and happy life. Your life does not revolve around her. Get it? I think you should stop stressing so much. Focus on being happy with yourself and with your life. If she can add to it, that's great, and she'd be lucky to be a part of that. She shouldn't be your focus, though.
Johnny M Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 In addition to what Lora said, the fact that the girl got so mad because of a joke about her hairdo is a good indication that she's a nutcase. Stop torturing yourself and forget about her.
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