laricla Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Me and my boy had been on and off for about 2 years. He has major trust issues which were starting to turn into major possessiveness. And its always been the reason we had broken up, and he had always promised he would change and move on from the past and things would be good, but jealousy always reared its ugly head. Anyway, he was moving to the UK and I was oging to follow him and we had said that we'd make a fresh start together. I just had to get a few things sorted out (like selling the car, getting a visa etc) and was taking to long doing that. I was taking too long for two reasons, 1. because I am quite a lazy person in terms of organisation and 2. because I was enjoying spending time with family and friends (who i hadn't seen in 3 months and wouldn't see again for at least a year). Anyway even though it was only about 2 weeks after i was due to arrive when i was going to buy my ticket he dumped me, saying that me taking too long meant that i didn't love him and it had brought up all of the trust issues because he was wondering what I was doing over here instead of being with him and now he wants a life "without the stress of wondering where his girlfriend is or if she even gives a f^%$ about him". That was a week ago, and while i feel ok most of the time, I really miss him. I miss his friendship and talking to him more than anything. I asked him whether we could still be friends and he said yes, but he's being really slack in responding to texts (I'm not sending too many, dont worry). So I'm sad, I'm hurt and I'm angry that he ended a relationship over facebook (he refused to answer any of my calls) when it was serious, we were talking about getting married and so on and then because I'm not in the UK exactly when planned he doesn't love me anymore. Plus it think its hard because times when we've broken up before and then met and talked and gotten back together he's admitted how hard it was for him and how upset he was, even though at the time he's been quite cold and callous. So I don't even know if that's whats happening again or if he has moved on and is finally happy.
NoneoftheAbove Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Do NOT blame him for anything. It is all your fault, how so? 1) Please drop that BS, im too lazy come on you are not a kid. 2) You need to sit down and talk with him that you are with your family and friends, i bet you didnt say anything at all to this poor guy so he could understand the situation. What are the things you are doing so he doesnt trust you? thats a big issue in a relationship, you can not go far without trust. You need to look at yourself and realize what you are doing wrong instead of blaming others for your problems. In my eyes you deserve everything that is coming your way. Im not trying to be mean or anything, you gotta face the reality sooner or later i think its about time for you.
icecreamland Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 WOWOW what a negative response noneoftheabove, i don't think that was necessary! well here is what i think, you need to admit, as you sort of have on here, that what you miss is his friendship and his companionship, it seems you may have loved him more as a friend than as a soul mate, so you must admit that to yourself and realize that you both deserve all the love you need, as to why he has been a bit crap at responding is probably because he is really hurt that is has come to this, you must understand it was not easy for him to break up with you, of course he loved you.. so i recommend giving him his space to grieve and get over it, and you need it as well, you must look out for him and realize how hard it is when you love someone so much and they dont SEEM to love you the same way back, hope this helps!
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