poppy13 Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 (edited) Curious. Do you think it's possible, in a relationship, that one person is the chaser for a period of time, but circumstances change and overtime the roles are reversed? Or is it once a chaser always the chaser? I know this can happen a lot when initially dating someone, but I'm referring to longer periods of dating. Personally, I have been on both sides of the coin but I have never been in a relationship long enough to see those roles reversed? --I apologize if this question has already been addressed, but I did a search and could not find one exactly like this Edited October 12, 2009 by poppy13
New Again Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Yes, it's very much possible. I don't know how I feel about the chaser/chasee labels, but I'll use your language. My bf has been the "chaser" for over a year (I'd say mutual, but I let him take the lead, for sure); now I'm a bit more of the chaser (same thing, mutual, but now I'm taking more of the lead)...and I think it's a good thing.
Johnny M Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Curious. Do you think it's possible, in a relationship, that one person is the chaser for a period of time, but circumstances change and overtime the roles are reversed? Or is it once a chaser always the chaser? I know this can happen a lot when initially dating someone, but I'm referring to longer periods of dating. Personally, I have been on both sides of the coin but I have never been in a relationship long enough to see those roles reversed? --I apologize if this question has already been addressed, but I did a search and could not find one exactly like this If you are in a healthy long-term relationship, there should be no "chasing" or other games going on in the first place...
Author poppy13 Posted October 13, 2009 Author Posted October 13, 2009 I agree, Johnny. Hard core chasing never works longterm. But i guess I'm referring more to what NewAgain is talking about. I'm currently on the 'chaser' end. It's definitely not extreme, but I can kinda feel it. I hope to find a better balance - even if it's just a little. I just don't know how to go about it. I know the answer is probably just to stop thinking about it and do what I want I was just curious with peoples' past experiences
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