tigressA Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Is it common for you to see a discrepancy on someone's profile(s) in regards to relationship status? A fellow castmate in a theatre production I'm in was getting flirty with me and I saw that while his Facebook always said he was single, when I found him on MySpace recently it said he was in a relationship. I had the opportunity to ask him about it a few days ago while during rehearsals we were talking about who among us was single, and he said he didn't have a girlfriend. The stage manager for this same production who I've been hanging out with more has been single for awhile. His Facebook says he's single; he doesn't talk about his ex much but when he does he calls her "my ex" or by her first name, but his MySpace says he's in a relationship, and what's more, his default picture on MySpace is of him with his ex. So LSers, would you pay heed to this? If there is a discrepancy you've noticed in regards to someone you're interested in, do you ask them about it and are you likely to believe what they say, or what you see?
Double Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 As far as I can tell, people aren't keeping up with their MS accounts in favor of their FB accounts. I know people who have been "single" on MS or "in a relationship" on MS when I know for a fact that the opposite is true. And their FB account represents their true status. Even if they logged into their MS account recently, they might still not have made the effort to change the information.
Author tigressA Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 Yeah, I have noticed this. A lot of my friends say that they use Facebook far more regularly than MySpace and that their Facebooks reflect their actual status, or whatever else. I do know that it is much easier/faster to edit things on Facebook than MySpace. I myself only use MySpace primarily for blogging and I keep it very exclusive--I have 9 friends on MySpace, while I have 90 on Facebook. But I do update both of them to reflect my current relationship status. I find it mildly off-putting when I see discrepancies like that though, no matter how common they are.
Double Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Yeah, I have noticed this. A lot of my friends say that they use Facebook far more regularly than MySpace and that their Facebooks reflect their actual status, or whatever else. I do know that it is much easier/faster to edit things on Facebook than MySpace. I myself only use MySpace primarily for blogging and I keep it very exclusive--I have 9 friends on MySpace, while I have 90 on Facebook. But I do update both of them to reflect my current relationship status. I find it mildly off-putting when I see discrepancies like that though, no matter how common they are. Fortunately you may choose not to date those people.
dreamergrl Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Big deal, he might not have changed it, or updated it. If you're really wondering, just ask him if he's single or not and quit stalking his social networking sites.
northstar1 Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Is it common for you to see a discrepancy on someone's profile(s) in regards to relationship status? A fellow castmate in a theatre production I'm in was getting flirty with me and I saw that while his Facebook always said he was single, when I found him on MySpace recently it said he was in a relationship. I had the opportunity to ask him about it a few days ago while during rehearsals we were talking about who among us was single, and he said he didn't have a girlfriend. The stage manager for this same production who I've been hanging out with more has been single for awhile. His Facebook says he's single; he doesn't talk about his ex much but when he does he calls her "my ex" or by her first name, but his MySpace says he's in a relationship, and what's more, his default picture on MySpace is of him with his ex. So LSers, would you pay heed to this? If there is a discrepancy you've noticed in regards to someone you're interested in, do you ask them about it and are you likely to believe what they say, or what you see? This is the bs that goes along with these social network sites. People read far too much into them. You want to know something, ask him in person to his face and stay off the facebook/myspace sites he's on, or you'll end up playing Private Detective.
Author tigressA Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 I know that they both are because that's what they have said. I just noticed the discrepancies recently, is all. It makes me think about these sites in general--I wonder if I, and many others, tend to put more stock in them than we should. I've heard jokes about how if a relationship isn't posted on someone's Facebook that "it doesn't really exist". Or should we think of them as a reflection of the person? I mean, that's the whole reason we create profiles on these sites, isn't it? And that's why I don't allow for any discrepancies in mine. I might be in the minority though.
northstar1 Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I know that they both are because that's what they have said. I just noticed the discrepancies recently, is all. It makes me think about these sites in general--I wonder if I, and many others, tend to put more stock in them than we should. I've heard jokes about how if a relationship isn't posted on someone's Facebook that "it doesn't really exist". Or should we think of them as a reflection of the person? I mean, that's the whole reason we create profiles on these sites, isn't it? And that's why I don't allow for any discrepancies in mine. I might be in the minority though. Right, I wouldn't put any stock in what someone has on FB. It's a self PR tool with little connection to honesty or accuracy. It allows people to project WHAT they want others to think about them. It may or may not be accurate. I had an ex who blasted me for not updating my profile with "in a relationship' and I realized that those network sites are just not for me.
Double Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I know that they both are because that's what they have said. I just noticed the discrepancies recently, is all. It makes me think about these sites in general--I wonder if I, and many others, tend to put more stock in them than we should. I've heard jokes about how if a relationship isn't posted on someone's Facebook that "it doesn't really exist". Or should we think of them as a reflection of the person? I mean, that's the whole reason we create profiles on these sites, isn't it? And that's why I don't allow for any discrepancies in mine. I might be in the minority though. Most people are on those sites, IMO, to keep in contact with people. As an extension of that, everyone is entitled to update the information they choose to share with EVERYONE on the internet. Other information, such as relationship status, might be something they choose to only share with closer friends/family they keep in closer touch with outside of the internet. It's really not up to you to decide how others should conduct themselves online. If you disagree with it, or it offends you, or whatever, you have the option to not date that person. Social networking sites are not supposed to be free dating sites.
Author tigressA Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 I had an ex who blasted me for not updating my profile with "in a relationship' and I realized that those network sites are just not for me. I know a LOT of people who are like that. Comes with the territory, being in college and all...and yes, people are a lot more likely to believe what they see than what someone says and they're much less likely to just even ask someone to their face. I asked--after having noticed the discrepancy, of course.
Soul Bear Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 My MySpace says I'm still engaged! I never go on it tho. I would delete it, but I forgot the password to the email account associated with it, so I just leave it. I haven't even looked on it in years. So he could very well be single.
Author tigressA Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 My MySpace says I'm still engaged! I never go on it tho. I would delete it, but I forgot the password to the email account associated with it, so I just leave it. I haven't even looked on it in years. So he could very well be single. Yeah, both these guys have said they are single during a conversation our entire show cast had about relationships during our last rehearsal, and their FBs also say they are, so I'm going to go with that and just continue with the flirtation. I just wanted to see if it's more common than I first thought for there to be situations like this, and I guess it is.
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