Adi Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Ok, i have posted on here a few times my last post was really on how to move foward after being cheated on, i did accept the replies but i new i did not get my story across well, so all i really got was dump her. This post is for any one who thinks they have something worth saving. At first my head would spin, all i would think is i can never get over this any one who has been cheated on will now how you feel questions, always on your mind etc, so this is what worked for me. First of all, realise your parnter is humen, and they make mistakes, dont think of it has being so personel idefy what was wrong, and understand they made a mistake, of coures this is oniy true if your partner has finished there afair and would like another chance. People will always say once a cheater always a cheater, well i two time a ex but i would not two time the girl i am with, you get one chance in life if you on in love you can still make mistakes, being with someone for a while can get hard now and then, so why loose that special someone for a mistake, i would say for anyone reading this who has been cheated on, 1 find the reason 2 talk and talk 3 feel if you still have that real love in you gut 4 dont be scared to feel bad no it is the prosess (keep talking) 5 after a couple of weeks of getting the truth out let it go you dont need to no every detail 6 if your partner is prpared to show you love and surpopt back and you found the root cause, and did something about it move on you will never forget but you will sooth, sometimes people need a second chance. Think of the afair has a sytom of a sick partnership, once it heels there is no more sytoms, just work to keep it healthy.
misternoname Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Sure...in a perfect world maybe. Unfortuantely there are alot of cheaters out there that continue the behavior despite the best efforts their partners to address and fix the problem. I did everything you mentioned but three more affairs later I finally gave up. My life isn't perfect but at least I no longer spend countless hours worrying about the next indiscretion. Like the old saying goes..."those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it."
Lishy Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 what a load of hooey! They cheat and you leave, the end! Who needs to be with a person they will never trust????????
bentnotbroken Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Ok, i have posted on here a few times my last post was really on how to move foward after being cheated on, i did accept the replies but i new i did not get my story across well, so all i really got was dump her. This post is for any one who thinks they have something worth saving. At first my head would spin, all i would think is i can never get over this any one who has been cheated on will now how you feel questions, always on your mind etc, so this is what worked for me. First of all, realise your parnter is humen, and they make mistakes, dont think of it has being so personel idefy what was wrong, and understand they made a mistake, of coures this is oniy true if your partner has finished there afair and would like another chance. People will always say once a cheater always a cheater, well i two time a ex but i would not two time the girl i am with, you get one chance in life if you on in love you can still make mistakes, being with someone for a while can get hard now and then, so why loose that special someone for a mistake, i would say for anyone reading this who has been cheated on, 1 find the reason 2 talk and talk 3 feel if you still have that real love in you gut 4 dont be scared to feel bad no it is the prosess (keep talking) 5 after a couple of weeks of getting the truth out let it go you dont need to no every detail 6 if your partner is prpared to show you love and surpopt back and you found the root cause, and did something about it move on you will never forget but you will sooth, sometimes people need a second chance. Think of the afair has a sytom of a sick partnership, once it heels there is no more sytoms, just work to keep it healthy. How nice of you to decide who needs all the details and who doesn't. YOU may not have needed all the details I was and if you feel like the truth is all coming out in a couple of weeks(i.e. trickle truth) I got some swamp land to sell youk, dirt cheap. :lmao:
Lishy Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 This thread should be called "how to bury your head in the sand and pretend all is ok after your partner cheats on you"
Dexter Morgan Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Think of the afair has a sytom of a sick partnership, once it heels there is no more sytoms. but there is the scar that one partner gives the other because they got their jollies off with someone else. and a scar can ache at times. So there may not be any more "symptoms", but a scar is now an all too big of reminder of what your partner did behind your back. sorry, I just don't see that as healthy.
Dexter Morgan Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 This thread should be called "how to bury your head in the sand and pretend all is ok after your partner cheats on you" or OP can do as you did.....break up, but still call the cheating X over for a good ego boostin' boff:o
Lishy Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 or OP can do as you did.....break up, but still call the cheating X over for a good ego boostin' boff:o Your sarcasm is not wanted in this establishment! Keep your bitchy comments to yourself Queen Dexter!
RedDevil66 Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Every situation with cheating is different. If a couple has been together a while and one cheats due to a break down in the relationship and the cheater is truly remorseful, then yeah, there is hope. If the cheater is a pathalogical pig or a repeat offender, then yeah, say buh bye!
FreezorBurn Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 This thread should be called "how to bury your head in the sand and pretend all is ok after your partner cheats on you" :laugh: Very true, who ever wrote this thread I dought ever experianced the PAIN and SUFFERING of being cheated on. Yeah ok "Just move on." much easier said then done.
FreezorBurn Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 or OP can do as you did.....break up, but still call the cheating X over for a good ego boostin' boff:o Dex, How about your issues? Why don't we just throw your failures in your face. Comm'on man don't be a douche.
Dexter Morgan Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Your sarcasm is not wanted in this establishment! Keep your bitchy comments to yourself Queen Dexter! just struck me as odd that you'd comment on this the way you did considering the way you are.
Dexter Morgan Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Dex, How about your issues? Why don't we just throw your failures in your face. Comm'on man don't be a douche. point was freeze, if someone is going to comment on something, make sure the comment or advice isn't hypocritical.
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