sakeeta Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I am beginning to believe that there are no good men out there. I'm 43 and I've yet to see it. I haven't followed the pattern of being with the same "type"..yet in the end the reality has been they just want a mommy, cash cow, cook & maid, or mostly..a piece of a$$. Don't men have real feelings? Aren't there ANY that can love, respect, cherish, and share a life with a woman? I don't want to end up alone forever, but I am sick of not being able to find a man who can be mature, loving, respectful, and not see me as property, a maid, a mommy or a piece of meat. I am beginning to believe it isn't possible. I never really thought it would be so difficult, but since I divorced my ex..who was very emotionally abusive, 10 years ago..I have yet to come across a man that even came close to being what I described. I really don't think what I expect is too much to ask! Should I just give up???
Soul Bear Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Should I just give up??? Yes Then see what happens
You'reasian Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I am beginning to believe that there are no good men out there. I'm 43 and I've yet to see it. I haven't followed the pattern of being with the same "type"..yet in the end the reality has been they just want a mommy, cash cow, cook & maid, or mostly..a piece of a$$. Don't men have real feelings? Aren't there ANY that can love, respect, cherish, and share a life with a woman? I don't want to end up alone forever, but I am sick of not being able to find a man who can be mature, loving, respectful, and not see me as property, a maid, a mommy or a piece of meat. I am beginning to believe it isn't possible. I never really thought it would be so difficult, but since I divorced my ex..who was very emotionally abusive, 10 years ago..I have yet to come across a man that even came close to being what I described. I really don't think what I expect is too much to ask! Should I just give up??? Do you dislike men with stable careers, who cook, clean up after themselves and want something more than just sex?
Sith Apprentice Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 What do you have to offer? Tell us about yourself and I'll decide if I would put you on my team.
Jaytb Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 What do you have to offer? Tell us about yourself and I'll decide if I would put you on my team. dude stop trying to pimp out our posters
ecm Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Should I just give up??? Yes Then see what happens Good answer, Soul Bear. Sakeeta- I feel the same way. If you're/ we're looking too hard, guys can sense it. (I think...so I've heard). Do your thang & you might cross paths with someone fabulous...
Author sakeeta Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 Should I just give up??? Yes Then see what happens Thank you, Soul Bear..maybe you're right. ********************************************************** Do you dislike men with stable careers, who cook, clean up after themselves and want something more than just sex? I don't have any idea, You'reasian..I have never met one. ***************************************************************** What do you have to offer? Tell us about yourself and I'll decide if I would put you on my team. I've skimmed your posts, Sith Apprentice. You don't even have respect for yourself, much less a woman or anyone else for that matter. I wouldn't be on your "team" for a million dollars. ********************************************************** Don't women have feelings? Why do most women not go for short men, that are needy with crappy jobs? Or wait....... Everyone wants someone that's attractive yet nice. Most people are using each other. The difference is only to the degree they use someone else. I don't believe I used the word "attractive" anywhere in my post. Men aren't attracted to needy women..and I've had my share of needy men. I don't think it's too much to ask for someone to be nice. I'm nice, and respectful. All I'm asking is for the same in return. And "attractive" has nothing to do with appearance, including size..if that's what you're inferring. I am a woman, and I definitely have feelings..too many, probably. And while I suspect that you are probably right about people using each other..it is my hope that I find, or someone finds me..that doesn't have that as their ulterior motive. ********************************************************** Sakeeta- I feel the same way. If you're/ we're looking too hard, guys can sense it. (I think...so I've heard). Do your thang & you might cross paths with someone fabulous... Thank you ecm..it's really nice to know that I'm not the only one out there feeling this way. I will continue doing my "thang"..and hopefully you're right about me maybe coming across someone "fabulous". I sure hope so!
Author sakeeta Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 Finding nice is easy if that's all you're after. There's dozens of nice guys just down the street. Finding a person that's nice but you're attracted to is another matter. That's what I was getting at. Yes, being attracted to someone is important..but it doesn't have anything to do with appearance. It is that attraction that brings men and women together in the first place. Attractiveness is an entire package, including being nice. But, finding a genuinely "nice" guy isn't all that easy..at all!
Author sakeeta Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 Human attraction isn't logical, people often find attractive characteristics that exist in jerks/bitches. You can say that again!! I don't think I want just a "nice guy"..I want a respectful, loving, decent, genuine man who is honest about his feelings, who genuinely wants ME and isn't just out to use me! That is attractive!! That is how I approach relationships, and I just want it in return. I'm just losing faith that it's possible.
New_Life08 Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 It seems like all of the nice guys are with real bitches, and nice girls are with total jerks. So maybe we have to be a bitch to find the good guys. So sad really...
EcstasyX6 Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I'm about your age, and it's an interesting time of life indeed. You can date men in their early 30's up to early fifties if you choose. Men at this age still put sex and physical attraction high on their list of priorities. It's just the way they're wired. The more attractive/sexy you are, the more options you'll have. It's just the way it is. It's easy for some women in our age group to kind of let themselves go. If men are seeing you as a 'mommy', do you look like a mommy? Make sure you're taking care of yourself in terms of fitness, and dress, and you may be, but you haven't said. How are you finding men to go out with and where do you meet them? Do you get caught up in a guy too quickly after meeting him? I think that men also prefer alluring women. Nothing turns them off more than someone who may appear clingy or needy. What have been some of your dating experiences if you care to share?
Recommended Posts