penny.lane Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 hello everyone, my partner and I are planning on having a foursome with a married couple who are both friends of ours and i am so nervous and excited I can't think about anything else! i was hoping i could get some advice or stories of people's experiences in this kind of thing?? we both have never done anything like this before but our married couple friends have done it quite a bit! i think they will be good to do it with because they are extremely trustworthy and mature and will be able to guide us through it. i am a little worried about not shaping up, although my partner assures me i have nothing to worry about. im just so excited!!!!!!!!!!! it turns me on that this couple are married and are parents!! they are over 10 years older than me and my boyfriend but still very attractive. we are going to get some charlie to heighten our experience as well.......aahhh!!! i cant think about anything else! someone please share my excitement!
Lucky_One Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 If Charlie comes (no pun intended, of course), then won't that make a fivesome? Or does anything over 4 just become an "orgy" or "pulling a train"?
Author penny.lane Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 good point! i think i might be thinking about it too much but i am aware that on the night i will have to cease thinking about ANYTHING at all and just have fun! its in two weeks aaaah!!! i figure me and the woman will probably start hooking up first and just take that as far as it goes and then the boys will slowly join in. who knows!! you can't plan these things can you? im thinking about what im going to wear, how im going to do my makeup and hair etc etc!! its like a first date! a really dirty kinky first date! i have absolutely no experience doing anything like this!! im pretty adventurous with my boyfriend but never have we done it with someone else...let alone TWO other people! i might have to watch some foursome porn to see how it works?
Lucky_One Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I hate it when people don't get my humor... (Except for Mr Soul Bear!)
Author penny.lane Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 I hate it when people don't get my humor... (Except for Mr Soul Bear!) i think i got it......maybe...........explain?
dreamergrl Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I'm a bit behind on my orgy knowledge. Charlie isn't code for X is it?
TheLoneSock Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I'm a bit behind on my orgy knowledge. Charlie isn't code for X is it? Charlie is Cocain.
Author penny.lane Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 I'm a bit behind on my orgy knowledge. Charlie isn't code for X is it? no i meant coke...sweet powdery goodness!
Author penny.lane Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 It's going to change your life. how will it change my life??? tell me!!!!!!!! tell me everything!!!
dreamergrl Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Okay, Charlie means Coke. I'm all caught up now. I've never heard that term before. Just a question... have you had sex on drugs before?
TheLoneSock Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 how will it change my life??? tell me!!!!!!!! tell me everything!!! Well I've never had a foursome before, but I've had a threesome. I would imagine that it being two couples and a planned event it should be a pleasent experience for you (not that a threesome isn't). It's just different. I can tell you that you might feel things you weren't expecting. Some negative some positive/exciting. Just be careful, it can be a sensitive subject, sharing your man with another woman in front of you, and vice versa. Make sure both of you really want it. I would also worry about STD's- if the couple you are doing this with has a lot of experience in it, chances are high they could have something- and even be unaware of it. Add into the mix fact that there will be narcotics involved... there's a lot to digest. Be careful.
Author penny.lane Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 Okay, Charlie means Coke. I'm all caught up now. I've never heard that term before. Just a question... have you had sex on drugs before? yes i have on ecstasy (in a club bathroom EW! but i was young and sooooo horny i had no choice lol), and on coke me and my boyfriend (current) went downstairs from his end of financial year work function into this carpark room i dont even know what its purpose was and we did anal and it was so so so hot. you just feel like you're a ROCK STAR. how come?? have you tried it?
dreamergrl Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Well I've never had a foursome before, but I've had a threesome. I would imagine that it being two couples and a planned event it should be a pleasent experience for you (not that a threesome isn't). It's just different. I can tell you that you might feel things you weren't expecting. Some negative some positive/exciting. Just be careful, it can be a sensitive subject, sharing your man with another woman in front of you, and vice versa. Make sure both of you really want it. I would also worry about STD's- if the couple you are doing this with has a lot of experience in it, chances are high they could have something- and even be unaware of it. Add into the mix fact that there will be narcotics involved... there's a lot to digest. Be careful. I agree. You're treading on some emotional lines OP. Have you had a good conversation about all this with your SO? Set some boundaries? yes i have on ecstasy (in a club bathroom EW! but i was young and sooooo horny i had no choice lol), and on coke me and my boyfriend (current) went downstairs from his end of financial year work function into this carpark room i dont even know what its purpose was and we did anal and it was so so so hot. you just feel like you're a ROCK STAR. how come?? have you tried it? I don't recommend bringing drugs into the bedroom. I've seen people end up needing drugs more and more often for sex, because they want that sexual high again... And you always have a choice.
Author penny.lane Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 Well I've never had a foursome before, but I've had a threesome. I would imagine that it being two couples and a planned event it should be a pleasent experience for you (not that a threesome isn't). It's just different. I can tell you that you might feel things you weren't expecting. Some negative some positive/exciting. Just be careful, it can be a sensitive subject, sharing your man with another woman in front of you, and vice versa. Make sure both of you really want it. I would also worry about STD's- if the couple you are doing this with has a lot of experience in it, chances are high they could have something- and even be unaware of it. Add into the mix fact that there will be narcotics involved... there's a lot to digest. Be careful. yeah we are all very trustworthy of each other and it is very clear that we have no interest in each other and we are both in loving committed relationships. we are all adults and they have proven before that they can keep things like this to themselves and carry on having great friendships with other couples. they mentioned it becomes an unspoken acknowledgement of something we have shared together and you dont really talk about it. my boyfriend has said guys have the ability to separate love and sex alot more easily than girls so i shouldnt be worried at all - and he said that he wont be jealous of me and the other man because he is very confident in my love for him and in the fact that i wouldnt run away with this married man. i suppose he feels the same way about our woman friend as i do about the man friend....they are just players in our game!!! players that we trust and that are on the same page as us. i have had major jealousy issues in the past but i am getting over it. i am a firm believer in mind over matter and i think i will be able to just let go and have fun and not worry about eye contact or whatever i might see when my boyfriend has sex with the other woman....and her husband will be all over me anyway so who am i to complain!
dreamergrl Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 i have had major jealousy issues in the past but i am getting over it. i am a firm believer in mind over matter and i think i will be able to just let go and have fun and not worry about eye contact or whatever i might see when my boyfriend has sex with the other woman....and her husband will be all over me anyway so who am i to complain! I don't think this is a good idea for you.....
Author penny.lane Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 I agree. You're treading on some emotional lines OP. Have you had a good conversation about all this with your SO? Set some boundaries? I don't recommend bringing drugs into the bedroom. I've seen people end up needing drugs more and more often for sex, because they want that sexual high again... And you always have a choice. yeah we are talking about this ALOT and we are both feeling very comfortable and excited about this. well, as you can see i have only ever had sex on drugs twice and believe me, there have been PLENTY of times without! the part about not having a choice was a joke, not to be taken seriously. i never let myself get out of control and i wont in this instance either. everyone that will be involved is very caring and understanding and we all just want to experiment together and have fun within a safe environment!
Author penny.lane Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 I don't think this is a good idea for you..... look, its up to me whether i feel comfortable or not and i am not silly. i know myself and my boundaries and i know this is something i want to do.
Lucky_One Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Jealousy never EVER mixes well with partner sharing, in any shape or form. Good luck. You sound really really young, and hopefully you will live long enough to grow out of that.
Lizzie60 Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I know how excited you feel... I've never had a foursome.. only threesomes.. but I came close.. in fact I met this couple a few years ago.. with my then bf... I was ready... for that same evening.. She was bi.. and he was straight.. so obviously the guys wouldn't have touched each other.. it was all about the women.. and then the guys joining in.. She was very attractive.. a bit younger than I was. he was OK.. My bf backed off.. cause he felt both of them were just after me.. he felt left out.. anyway.. it didn't work out.. but I was willing to try.. But I have to say that I wasn't 'head over heels' in love with this guy.. so it wouldn't have matter to me to watch him and this woman together.. I honestly don't think I could do this if I was madly in love with my SO... I don't share.. For me.. when a couple decide to try this kind of sex.. they are missing something and need to spice up things in the bedroom... not necessarily a good thing.. but to each their own.. I've known couples who did.. they were older couples.. so they needed that 'spice' ..
Author penny.lane Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 I know how excited you feel... I've never had a foursome.. only threesomes.. but I came close.. in fact I met this couple a few years ago.. with my then bf... I was ready... for that same evening.. She was bi.. and he was straight.. so obviously the guys wouldn't have touched each other.. it was all about the women.. and then the guys joining in.. She was very attractive.. a bit younger than I was. he was OK.. My bf backed off.. cause he felt both of them were just after me.. he felt left out.. anyway.. it didn't work out.. but I was willing to try.. But I have to say that I wasn't 'head over heels' in love with this guy.. so it wouldn't have matter to me to watch him and this woman together.. I honestly don't think I could do this if I was madly in love with my SO... I don't share.. For me.. when a couple decide to try this kind of sex.. they are missing something and need to spice up things in the bedroom... not necessarily a good thing.. but to each their own.. I've known couples who did.. they were older couples.. so they needed that 'spice' .. My partner and I are both 22 and the married couple is in their late 30s. I dont think this indicates something lacking in our sexual life...its just something we have both always wanted to try (kind of on a life to-do list) and circumstances have come together where we could do it. with my past boyfriend i never even considered doing this because i didnt want to share him...but now i feel secure that my current boyfriend and i could be exposed to anything and we could still stay together. and we are both confident that this isnt the beginning of infidelity or doing anything behind each other's backs...its something we are doing TOGETHER so its not based on cheating, lying or anything horrible that might damage our relationship. why do i feel like i am justifying this to everyone??? i wanted to hear everyone's stories!!!
Soul Bear Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 (edited) No one has any stories because they probably take their relationship a little more seriously, value it more, and aren't basicly giving each others friends a lend of their partner........yuch I think you sound totally bonkers Edited October 12, 2009 by Soul Bear I forgot to add a smile...
Lizzie60 Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 No need to justify .. you ask us to share our stories.. this is exactly what I did.. I've been with MMs who had this experience.. and some of them did see the other woman behind their partner's back... You didn't want to share your previous partner.. because you probably were head over heels in love with him.. but this one you don't mind sharing him... humm.. strange.. methink you don't love this one as much.. you just don't care, unconsiciously, if you lose him or not.. I honestly don't see how a loving couple, who have a great sex life, and is in their 20s ... can have the need for this type of experience unless they are more like F* buddies than lovers.. but this is MY opinion.
Author penny.lane Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 No need to justify .. you ask us to share our stories.. this is exactly what I did.. I've been with MMs who had this experience.. and some of them did see the other woman behind their partner's back... You didn't want to share your previous partner.. because you probably were head over heels in love with him.. but this one you don't mind sharing him... humm.. strange.. methink you don't love this one as much.. you just don't care, unconsiciously, if you lose him or not.. I honestly don't see how a loving couple, who have a great sex life, and is in their 20s ... can have the need for this type of experience unless they are more like F* buddies than lovers.. but this is MY opinion. i cheated on my last boyfriend numerous times and i was not as deeply in love with him as my current one. of course, i will never cheat again so thats not an issue - i thought i would just mention that so you know. my current boyfriend and i live together and share our lives together, we are not ready to get married just yet but it is definitely on the cards. its not a question of whether or not we care about each other or whether our sex life is satisfying or not - i think our married couple friends are a good example of how you can have a strong marriage and relationship, be great parents and people and still have some fun with each other involving other people that you know and trust. they have been together for years and years and this kind of thing has never shaken their relationship. its not for everyone...
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