DollWelch Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 I am friendly towards a male friend/acquaintance of mine, and I am somewhat certain he is misreading this vibe as interest. I have only known him for a short period of time, approximately 1 month and thinks he's already figured me out. Wrong. He's always on my tail. Asking about my life, where I am going, where I have come from, what I will be doing, and what I will be up to. Other times, he'll have lunch with me whenever he can, and always mention "We" during conversations. It's nauseating, sometimes. I treat him with respect like all people, all friends and nothing more, nothing less. However, it is too much. I certainly don't want to lead him on, but at the same time, I don't want to be unfriendly or rather, cruel and unjust towards him. He's a nice man, but, I am afraid he's already instilled an interested for me in his mind. This, I'm not comfortable with. For instance, he gathered the courage to invite me out to one of his "Sports Games", and I couldn't say yes or no. Instead, I said I'd look at my schedule and see if I can attend. In the end, I didn't go because I was caught up with work and personal matters (honestly). I hope he takes this well, next time I see him. I know I have to be firm, understanding and strict towards men of this nature, as I have done it before numerous times, but I feel awful and saddened by it. I am unsure on how to progress, let alone treat him. Thoughts?
Soul Bear Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 Just be honest with him. I would say something like next time he asks you somewhere ''You know you and I are just friends right?'' The longer you let this escalate, the more emotionally attached he will become in his own mind. That's not fair on him. Please, just be honest and upfront with him, it will lift a huge weight off your shoulders.
dreamergrl Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 You're giving him mix signals. You are showing him interest by saying you'll look at your schedule. I've had a guy ask me out for coffee and I really did have to check into my schedule. You are not being firm at all. Tell him you are not interested and let him move on to someone else.
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