rp123 Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 I don't know how I've acheived this. Its been so hard! But things are slowly becoming easier......... Still everyday I wake with an awful pain. I've even managed to go on a date!! Will she ever call me? I don't know. Will I ever break NC? Determined to never do this........ Just wish I could see what is going on in her mind, to either help me move on, or keep a tiny fragment of hope.......
Tamia78 Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 Just wish I could see what is going on in her mind, to either help me move on, or keep a tiny fragment of hope....... Yeah......I know the feeling, but I suppose it's best to just move on in this situation. We'll probably never know anyone's true motives behind why they break up with us, and if we did, it likely wouldn't be a good enough excuse. WTG, tho! Another 30 days! --T
quarterlifecrisis Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Nice congrats. Day 29 for me. Let's see how month 2 goes for the both of us.
Author rp123 Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 Nice congrats. Day 29 for me. Let's see how month 2 goes for the both of us. Nice to have you along, on this painful ride. Just wish I could evict the hope that she will call..........
rainbowsandkittens Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 good for you!!! that is awesome! totally inspiring! today is day 21 for me. seems to be getting harder, not easier. it's been almost a week since i got an email from him- even though i hate it when he contacts me (last time just seeing the email in my inbox made me cry) i feel like he's finally moving on and that makes me sad. i can't wait til i get to the point where i can go on a date or i feel this easing up. totally feel the same about wishing i knew what was going on in his mind....
contax Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I don't know how I've acheived this. Its been so hard! But things are slowly becoming easier......... Still everyday I wake with an awful pain. I've even managed to go on a date!! Will she ever call me? I don't know. Will I ever break NC? Determined to never do this........ Just wish I could see what is going on in her mind, to either help me move on, or keep a tiny fragment of hope....... Good job!!!! Keep it up. I know you wish you can see what's going on in her mind...looking for closure. What I learned is you give closure to yourself. I broke NC the second month and expressed all my feelings of anger, hurt, fear, responsibility and love...she replied so dumb and misunderstanding...I told my friend and he said screw it...you can't get closure from people like that. I pat my self on the back - almost 6 months of N/C and she had called me up to last month consistently.
angelface78 Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Congratulations!!! Keep going. It gets harder the longer you do it...but you do become stronger. I made it to 3 months and then broke it. I called him trying to get closure...i didnt! Its true what Contax said.. you cant get closure from them!!!. You cant ask them for anything....you gotta do it on your own. Whatever you do dont break it! Im on week one again..lol!!! But its ok. I wont ever break it again!! Its not worth it believe me!!! KEEP GOING...YOURE AWESOME!!!
Author rp123 Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 Congratulations!!! Keep going. It gets harder the longer you do it...but you do become stronger. I made it to 3 months and then broke it. I called him trying to get closure...i didnt! Its true what Contax said.. you cant get closure from them!!!. You cant ask them for anything....you gotta do it on your own. Whatever you do dont break it! Im on week one again..lol!!! But its ok. I wont ever break it again!! Its not worth it believe me!!! KEEP GOING...YOURE AWESOME!!! Thanks angelface! I've read a number of your posts and I can really relate to them. I don't know how you acheived 3 months, that deserves respect!!! Thank you to you all... It helps so much
Soul Bear Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Well done on your NC. Really proud of you. It's one of the hardest things to do. If you can do that, you can do ANYTHING!
adamt Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 I'm on over 4 months of NC since breaking up. No matter how hard it is, stay NC because breaking NC will put you in a worse mess. It is the quickest way to heal. But you have to keep yourself busy aswell as stay NC.
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