kimflute26 Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 My ex and I ended our 2 year relationship a couple weeks ago. I had broken up with him a few days prior to the final split. After that we talked it out, tried to see if we could make it work, then ultimately he ended it (and this time it is very much for real). Initially I had the "No, please... don't go!" sort of reaction and that lasted for about a day, then tapered off fairly quickly. After about a week I was to the point where I wasn't thinking about my ex too much, and now after just 2 weeks I feel pretty normal. The oddest thing of all is that during the relationship I felt REALLY dependent on my ex - I always felt neglected when he went a day or two without calling and I made him a huge priority in my life (probably to the point where I lost myself). Now that I'm out of the relationship it's almost as if the "spell" has been broken, so to speak. I'm really perfectly content to do my own thing these days - I'm even trying different things and discovering new passions, which is something I KNOW I wouldn't have done while in the relationship. The tables have turned and now he's the one who is contacting me (we're trying to be friends). Perhaps I'm taking it all so well because I never actively think about my ex or the breakup. Those thoughts simply haven't been going through my mind much, and I guess it would be difficult to be majorly distraught over something that isn't on your mind. On the other hand, maybe this means that the dynamic of my relationship wasn't right for me at all and there's a good reason why we're broken up, because if we were supposed to be together, I'd probably feel like the whole breakup was a huge mistake. Anyway..... I think I'm just being introspective in public . Thanks for listening.
Lamak Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 Maybe you feel at peace because you left him once, before the actual break. My two cents.
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