Pendles Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 My ex and I were together for around four and a half years. This was my first relationship. She was my first for everything, i was hers also. We were really close. I was young at the time we met. We basically grew up together. I'd spend all my weekends with her. I also lost contact with a lot of my friends. Late last year, which is the time we broke up, we just started to drift apart. We weren't seeing each other as much, had a few arguments here and there (nothing serious) and just simply lost the passion for each other. So we mutually agreed to break up. We decided to stay friends though and hadn't ruled out getting back together in the future. During the early stages of the break up, She called me here and there to see how i was doing. She was also curious to see if i was with other people. We saw each other a few times. We kissed and held hands as if we were still together. She invited me over to hers one night and we ended up having sex. I called her a couple days after, but she was ignoring me. Asked her what's wrong and she said she was furious at me for having sex and not messaging or calling her after it. She felt used. I think this may have been the last straw. So a few months went by and i was missing her like crazy. So i decided to ask her if she wanted to give us a second shot. However she was seeing someone else. This is when it really hit me that we were done. It sent me into shock. I was a wreck. I called her and went to her house uninvited a few times. I even bought her an expensive bracelet. I didn't know what to do, i just wanted her back. A couple days after i had flowers sent to hers along with a letter. She called me later on that evening and basically burnt me telling me its over and i had to stop calling her etc. At this point i started No Contact with her and got rid of all of her letters, our photos etc. It was real hard sticking to NC. Was real tempted to call or message her, but i stuck it out as i knew it was the only way i'd get over her. A month into NC, i received a message from her saying she was upset how things ended up. I ignored the message and didn't reply. She called me randomly a few months after just to see how i was doing. We ended up speaking for an hour just about general stuff, nothing about the break up. She called me on my birthday to wish me a happy birthday. A couple months went by, she called me again to see how things were and asked why i haven't been calling her. I told her I've been busy with work and fire fighting etc. She asked me to start calling her a bit more. It was her birthday a month after, so i sent her a text wishing her a happy birthday. I kept it as neutral as possible. She called me later thanking me for the message. She also asked why i never called her again from last time we spoke. Told her I've been busy and cut her short. So that takes me to now. Month has gone by, and she messaged me last Friday asking me to see her. So i went and saw her. We hadn't seen each other since the start of the year, so it was good to seeing her. She was real happy to see me and complimented me on how i look and my body etc. Also turns out she had broken up with the person she was seeing a couple days before. I was over the moon. As i left i told her we'll catch up and do something, she said "Yeah for sure, the ball's in your court". Think she was referring to the fact that she's been calling me heaps, so now its my turn. So i decided I'll wait a few days before i ask her to catch up. I sent her a text this Wednesday asking if she wants to have dinner this Sunday (today). Been a few days and i haven't heard back from her yet. Don't know if she's trying to get back at me for snobbing her off or if she simply didn't get my message. All i know is i don't want to call her and seem desperate. Feeling like crap at the moment and feel as if I've undone all my NC work. Either way if i don't hear back from her, I'm going to start NC again as it's helped me immensely through the break up. I'll keep yous updated on how things pan out Pendles
JaggedRoad Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 She's crawling back to you because it didn't out with the other guy =/
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