Lelouch Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 I have a really close friend at school and she considers me her best friend. I really like her now and want to go out with her sometime. I'm wondering how I should bring up the idea...since I know this could either make or break a relationship...
Soul Bear Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 It's not just a relationship it could make or break, it's also a friendship... Need some more details of your relationship with her please. Do you guys hang out together, go and do things together? Does she flirt with you? Do you flirt with her? Does she go after other guys while you are around? Does she tell you about guys she fancies and ask you for advice on men? As for how to bring it up, the best thing to do would be to just be honest with her.... Honesty IS the best policy, and the truth DOES set you free.
tfkizzle Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 I'm always skeptical when guys say they like their girl friends and want to ask them out. I think there's probably a very low success rate there. But since it sounds like you are set on doing this and want to know how to go about it, my advice is to just be very clear that you are asking her out on a date because you're interested in her. Just asking her to do something will make her think it's as friends.
Lusitan Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 The chance of you having a romantic relationship - or merely hooking - up - with her, is very dim, my friend. Women see male friends, mostly, as female friends but with a penis . Guys are there to do the heavy - lifting, to borrow money, to give her lots and lots of free male attention and to hear her out when she's complaining about her 'jerk' boyfriend who gets to bang her while you get to take care of all her needs and never getting anything in return. I don't know if you developed feelings for her or if you stepped in this 'relationship' thinking of being friends first and then a couple. It doesn't work that way. True, some friendships become a relationship but that's so rare and in between that it's not worthing hoping for. Women will not befriend guys they are interested in. If she was sexually attracted to you.. you would know. Anyway, move on and meet some other girl. This is why I advice guys to not befriend girls. Even if he doesn't have feelings for her, as they become more 'intimate' by sharing thoughts, goals, sadness and happiness, a bond will be created and likely, the guy will fall in love since this girl is the focus of his emotions.
Author Lelouch Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 I'm always with her in school. She even invites me to her dorm when I have nothing better to do. She doesn't seem interested in other guys as of the moment even though she knows someone interested in her.
Double Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I'm always with her in school. She even invites me to her dorm when I have nothing better to do. She doesn't seem interested in other guys as of the moment even though she knows someone interested in her. [seemingly] being uninterested in other guys doesn't mean she's interested in you. If she were interested in you, I think you would know.
EcstasyX6 Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I'm always with her in school. She even invites me to her dorm when I have nothing better to do. She doesn't seem interested in other guys as of the moment even though she knows someone interested in her. If a hot guy I really liked was sitting in my dorm, he'd know soon enough I liked him. I think she sees you as a friend. Unless there's some serious flirting going on, you should probably keep things as they are and focus on someone else.
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