citizen67 Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Ok guys - this is basic. After you have sex with a woman, you have to call her, especially if you ever want to have sex with her again, and even if you don't, you should call the next day and say, "hey I had a good time with you." - otherwise we feel used I had sex with a guy on a third date (I know, so typical). Leading up to date 3 he was calling and texting alot. The sex wasn't great (which I pin on him) . Anyway, at the end of the date, he kisses me good bye and says "I'll call you". And then proceeds not to. Two months later, he IM's me, wanting to get together. SOOO NOT Happening
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Lol, ya his bullpen probably just ran dry and he's looking for a pick-me-up round with you. Avoid him. Especially if he sucked in bed anyway.
Author citizen67 Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 exactly -he can take his tiny penis elsewhere, I am done with it
mr.dream merchant Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 You can always text her while you're laying in the ground work with another girl fellas! I'm just sayin!
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 I've also made the mistake of not calling a girl up after a night of sex for the first time with her. Grant-it, I had good reason, as I told her I would be busy all day moving into a new place the next couple of days. But looking back it wouldn't have been that hard to take 5 minutes and call her to say I'd like to see her again soon. She didn't speak to me for a week LOL. It's all about effort.
Lusitan Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 (edited) Ok guys - this is basic. After you have sex with a woman, you have to call her, especially if you ever want to have sex with her again, and even if you don't, you should call the next day and say, "hey I had a good time with you." - otherwise we feel used I had sex with a guy on a third date (I know, so typical). Leading up to date 3 he was calling and texting alot. The sex wasn't great (which I pin on him) . Anyway, at the end of the date, he kisses me good bye and says "I'll call you". And then proceeds not to. Two months later, he IM's me, wanting to get together. SOOO NOT Happening You feel used? Didn't you have sex because you wanted? Or were you expecting to get something more out of it, by "giving" him sex? Well, I've heard women say to not call them after sex because that makes them feel like they(the women) did the guy a favor. Guys, if you do this, girls will feel used, if you do that, girls will be used. There's no winning so save up the trouble and not call her. You save up your money and your time and devote yourself in getting in bed with other women. Nothing wrong with enjoying your life. And never let a woman make you feel like you owe her something. She got to have sex with you. She's the one who got lucky . Anyway, more to the point: Maybe the sex wasn't great because he wasn't attracted to you. Or because there was no emotional chemistry or because you were his second/third/fourth choice for sex, who knows? Don't worry about it and move on. Edit: And what's with the "little penis" trying to insult remark? Shaming language will not get what you want. I'm starting to think you wanted this guy to be your boyfriend and since he wasn't up for that, you shame him. And don't try to make it look like the guy took advantage of you. He didn't. Edited October 10, 2009 by Lusitan
OpenBook Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Guys, if you do this, girls will feel used, if you do that, girls will be used. There's no winning so save up the trouble and not call her. You save up your money and your time and devote yourself in getting in bed with other women. Nothing wrong with enjoying your life. And never let a woman make you feel like you owe her something. She got to have sex with you. She's the one who got lucky . And while you're at it dispensing all this incredible advice, why don't you give us girls some pointers on how to spot guys like you. We need to be more prepared for possible encounters with males of your stature.
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Some girls have sex because it's pleasurable, some have sex because they feel it will bring them closer to the guy, some have sex because they think they will get what they want in return. Every girl is different.
lofi_tokyo Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Haha thanks for this post citizen! I've found myself in a similar situation sex->no call -> FB message months later. I kind of clung to the guy though! Ack! Time to be strong though
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Haha thanks for this post citizen! I've found myself in a similar situation sex->no call -> FB message months later. I kind of clung to the guy though! Ack! Time to be strong though Find yourself a guy that digs clingy girls, they are out there. Just make sure they like it for the right reasons, and not because it makes it easier for them to be manipulative.
mr.dream merchant Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 And while you're at it dispensing all this incredible advice, why don't you give us girls some pointers on how to spot guys like you. We need to be more prepared for possible encounters with males of your stature. Its easy. But if the guy is smart and knows what he's doing, you'll never spot him. Just gotta take a chance I guess. Now, let's hope for your sake that if you do run into a guy like this, his sex is bad. Because if he's great at sex, you're going to be hooked onto something that is a curse in disguise.
Author citizen67 Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 (edited) You feel used? Didn't you have sex because you wanted? Or were you expecting to get something more out of it, by "giving" him sex? I wanted to have sex, but we had dated a few times, and I didnt anticipate not hearing from him for 2 months And never let a woman make you feel like you owe her something. She got to have sex with you. She's the one who got lucky . I was not the lucky one here Anyway, more to the point: Maybe the sex wasn't great because he wasn't attracted to you. Or because there was no emotional chemistry or because you were his second/third/fourth choice for sex, who knows? The sex was bad because of his tiny penis and lack of interest in satisfying anyone other than himself. And I'm not the one looking to do it again Edit: And what's with the "little penis" trying to insult remark? Shaming language will not get what you want. I'm starting to think you wanted this guy to be your boyfriend and since he wasn't up for that, you shame him. And don't try to make it look like the guy took advantage of you. He didn't. How is it shaming when I am saying it on here as opposed to saying it to him? He has no idea about this post Edited October 10, 2009 by citizen67
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 The sex wasn't great (which I pin on him) . Anyway, at the end of the date, he kisses me good bye and says "I'll call you". And then proceeds not to. Um... are you sure the problem wasn't you? In all honesty, he stopped calling you.
alphamale Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Ok guys - this is basic. After you have sex with a woman, you have to call her, especially if you ever want to have sex with her again, and even if you don't, you should call the next day and say, "hey I had a good time with you." - otherwise we feel used why would i call a woman after a one night stand that i have no intention of seeing again? that makes no sense whatsoever
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Um... are you sure the problem wasn't you? In all honesty, he stopped calling you. I'll echo this. I was once with a very attractive girl that was total crap in bed. I stopped calling her after the first week because of it. I'm sure she was very confused, being the pretty girl she is and all: Her question- "I'm hot, we just had sex, why would he stop calling me?" My answer- "Because you're a prudish, boring lay." Ofcourse it didn't happen like that, that's just figuratively speaking. But you get the point.
Author citizen67 Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 I thought a one night stand is when you sleep with the guy on the first date/meeting. We had numerous IM and phone conversations and 3 dates. I didn't know whether it was necessarily leading anywhere, but I was under the impression that we were casually dating. If he called the next day, and we dated more, I'd probably have given him another shot in bed. Because he did not, I'm not going to see him again, and he's the one asking not me, because I am not interested. So a 5 minute conversation on the phone initiated by him would've been a good idea - that's all I am saying
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 I thought a one night stand is when you sleep with the guy on the first date/meeting. We had numerous IM and phone conversations and 3 dates. I didn't know whether it was necessarily leading anywhere, but I was under the impression that we were casually dating. If he called the next day, and we dated more, I'd probably have given him another shot in bed. Because he did not, I'm not going to see him again, and he's the one asking not me, because I am not interested. So a 5 minute conversation on the phone initiated by him would've been a good idea - that's all I am saying Well look at it like this, he didn't want to call you, because he wasn't interested. You don't want to talk to him, because he has a small pecker and didn't call you. Sounds like it was never meant to be and going your seperate ways was the best thing to do So it was a blessing.
Author citizen67 Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 yeah - I havent lost any sleep over it, that's for sure. The whole point of this post was to tell guys, if there is any chance that you might want to sleep with a girl again, or just don't want her thinking you are a jerk, call the next day. Sex is a fairly big deal to most women.
pandagirl Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Well, if all you wanted was sex from her, then fine -- you don't call her the day after and she will probably think you are a big jerk, but you won't care because you don't care if you ever see her again! However, if you do like her, you really should contact her somehow, be it a text, email or phone call. My friend has been casually dating a guy for 2-3 months -- been on about 10 dates or so -- they just had sex for the first time a couple of weeks ago. He took a WEEK to call her. Not good.
Author citizen67 Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 agreed Pandagirl - a week is unreasonable and I think a text or email is BS too. Your penis was inside her, now you can't manage a phone call? And if you never want to see her again, yeah don't call, she'll think you are a jerk, and if you are lucky she won't tell other women that you'd like to sleep with how you treat women after having sex
OpenBook Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I thought "casually dating" meant it WASN'T going anywhere (or at least there are no plans at the present time for it to). So if you sleep with your "casual dating" partner it would seem like common sense to not expect anything afterwards. Wouldn't it?
Author citizen67 Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 To me casual dating means no pressure, you see where its going, don't expect to be planning a big vacation together or meeting each other's family's, but not that common courtesy is out the window.
Sith Apprentice Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 I Make her wait a few days. Girls do this stare at the phone thing, makes them all anticipatory. Don't give them what they want. Call her in a couple of days or if you get horny again. Also, after sex, just roll over and go to sleep, even if she hasn't had an orgasm yet. You did a lot of work and you're tired, and you have important work to do tomorrow.
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 I Make her wait a few days. Girls do this stare at the phone thing, makes them all anticipatory. Don't give them what they want. Call her in a couple of days or if you get horny again. Also, after sex, just roll over and go to sleep, even if she hasn't had an orgasm yet. You did a lot of work and you're tired, and you have important work to do tomorrow. Lol. Wtf?..
boogieboy Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 To me casual dating means no pressure, you see where its going, don't expect to be planning a big vacation together or meeting each other's family's, but not that common courtesy is out the window. Yeah but to him, it might have been casual, but once he got what he wanted, he didnt like it. He knows that if he wanted to have casual sex with you again he'd have to call, but he didnt want to have sex with you again. So why call? You seem to have trouble grasping this.
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