Kayla19 Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 I recently posted about how my boyfriend makes me feel so insecure and jealous sometimes by staring blatantly at women and flaunting all his favourite porn stars all over his walls when im there. But last night... He broke me. To the point I felt so worthless that I just wanted to go to sleep and never wake up. This is what happened.. We had a nice night in for once, everything went well and i felt so happy. We went back to his place and things got heated, which lead to us having sex. It was great until after a while, he said he couldn't ejaculate (this has only happened once before when we were doing it for a long time) because he had worn himself out. So I said "don't worry, it's ok. we can take a break if you want then try again? :)" I was kind about it, usually it doesn't happen, only once before it did. That's when he said something that absolutely broke my heart and my self esteem... He looked at me, pulled out a porno mag from under his bed, turned it to the page with this beautiful naked large breasted blonde woman and said "Would you mind it if I look at her for a few minutes (while we have sex) just so i can finish off?" I'm CRUSHED. I felt absolutely hideous, I got up, got dressed and walked out in tears. Needless to say, i can't even look at myself in the mirror. I will never satisfy him like those women do and last night proved it.
Bejita463 Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Again, if he wants a woman with larger breasts so badly, toss him to the curb where he can try to find one. There are plenty of men out there who will accept and desire you exactly how you are. You don't have to accept emotional abuse.
JackJack Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Why are you allowing him to continue to do this to you? You might not be the cause of him acting this way, but you sure are enabling him to continue on by staying in this situation.
JohnP82 Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Wow, that guy sounds awful. Why are you still with him?
EnigmasMuse Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 You know what sweetie? He can't break your heart anymore or say things to hurt you if you're not with him. Take a stand, and break it off. No, it wont be easy but it will be worth it.
JustLooking123 Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Good for you for walking out. Now DON'T EVER GO BACK!
lostsunsets Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 Congratulations. Now you can go out and find the wonderful guy, who will treat you like the engaging, beautiful woman you are.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 What he did was terrible and inexcusable. I would have left too. I hope that you have the strength to never go back. I will never satisfy him like those women do and last night proved it. No. The truth is that he will never satisfy you on any level, and last night proved it. You aren't the hideous one here.
marlena Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 Wow! How absolutely revolting. This guy is a monster. Sorry but he is. Like LB said, there is nothing good about him. NOTHING. Wht he did was cruel and sick. Please, do not let this injure your self-esteem. He's the one with issues not you. Unless you stay with him that is. If you stay,that means you too have issues for putting up with his emotional abuse. Please, please walk away and shed not one single tear, waste not one single thought on him. He's a lowlife. I know this sounds harsh but not nearly as harsh as what he did.
SadandConfusedWA Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 You know, I once dated a guy who made me feel like that. He would constantly make insensitive comments, flirt with other girls, not call when he said he would etc. I remember the 6 months I spent with him and I was mostly crying all that time. Then one night, after he didn't call me for a week, I was so depressed over it that I woke up at 4:30 am crying. As I was watching the sunrise feeling worthless, I had a thought. If I leave him NOW, I will never have to feel THIS way again. When I did, I felt like this huge weight has been lifted off me. I could breathe again, sleep again. I haven't even realized how much of my emotional energy was this guy sucking up. Suddenly I had TONS more energy too and breaking up was actually about million times easier than putting up with his disrespectful and hurtful behavior. He was killing my soul piece by piece and day by day. Please cut him off.
kiss_andmakeup Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 Wow, you definitely need to let this one go. He has serious issues if he'd rather wank it to a porn mag than have sex with his perfectly lovely and able-bodied girlfriend who is naked in his bed. You said you left, just don't go back. Don't answer his calls or texts. And good luck to him with his relationships, as I can't imagine a single woman that would be okay with such behaviour. In fact, I even like porn, my boyfriend and I both watch it in each other's absence, but if he EVER chose it over me, that would be the end of the line. It should be for you too.
You'reasian Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 (edited) He's acting insensitive toward you as a partner. From a man's perspective, that would be the equivalent of a couple having sex and then having a female whip out a giant dong because the guy's junk is average or something - if you decide to talk about it, bring up that example so he can see it from his perspective. People don't see things until its put into terms that mean something to themselves. I think we're all guilty of this at times. If attempts at diplomacy fails, move on. Edited October 12, 2009 by You'reasian
memorygospel Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Omg is this guy totally retarded or just plain stupid!? I'm a guy and although I've never been in that kind of situation I would never even consider doing something that insensitive to a girl I was just having sex with let alone if it was someone I cared deeply for. Please don't beat yourself up and judge yourself now just because this idiot thought it would be alright to bring out a porno mag to finish off Anyone who would do something like this definately isn't worth your time or attention.
Dark-Farmer Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Wow the disrespect is so thick you can cut it with a knife. He has a porn addiction, to the point were it is better than reality for him (which is you). Leave his ass!
lkjh Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Guys like that are insecure and it makes them feel better if they put there gf's down. It makes them feel like they are better than they really are. Sadly, some girls will put up with this because their self-esteem is low. He won't change and he will do anything to make himself feel better. I have a friend(not really a friend) who hits on every girl and makes sure we all know it. If two sisters are sitting next to each other he will try for both of them. He has a girlfriend and he is so worried that she may say something bad about him so, He actually tries to stop her from talking to people. I you let him treat you like this it will become a habit. If its not that bad tell him how you feel and let him feel repercussions for his actions. Don't let this continue or you won't be able to stop it. They give my gender a bad name
Skump Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 (edited) I'm CRUSHED. I felt absolutely hideous, I got up, got dressed and walked out in tears. Needless to say, i can't even look at myself in the mirror. I will never satisfy him like those women do and last night proved it.The only thing that event proved is that you can't satisfy a high-functioning sociopath. You're in good company: No one else can, either. Time to find someone higher up on the evolutionary ladder. Edited October 14, 2009 by Skump
Houndsoflove Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Wow. That is definitely him being extremely insensitive to say the least.. and has nothing to do with you. If I didn't give him a tongue lashing I would've said yeah sure.. if I can sit on your face afterwards while youtubing James Franco. This dude doesn't deserve you.
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