David Henshaw Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Hi, Occasional jealousy in a relationship is not such a bad thing .It can actually keep a relationship going ,but if it becomes intense and irrational it can be very destructive . I know of a woman who had an experience with a jealous partner .It left her exhausted and disillusioned .She was eventually able to rebuild her relationship by applying the following methods: She became understanding and supportive in recogniton of the fact that her partner valued their relationship .She changed aspects of her behaviour which triggered jealousy and finally . She helped build her partners confidence by telling him how much she loved him . Those of you who find your selves in relationships with jelous partners might want to apply these lessons to your own circumstances. Regards David Henshaw
Boundary Problem Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Helpful thank you Boundary Problem
freestyle Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I appreciate your point of view, also. I've often encountered the concept of jealousy being viewed as nothing but negative in many of the posts here. When somone admits to being jealous, they are often labeled as insecure and/or needy. Sometimes that is the case, but not always. There are different degrees, there is irrational jealousy, and rational jealousy, it all depends on the context. Myself, I would be insulted if my bf wasn't a little bit jealous. It would show me that he's afraid of losing me. A certain amount of jealousy is a compliment, IMO. I would be much more worried if he had no jealousy, as that would indicate indifference to me......(much bigger problem).
Boundary Problem Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I've often encountered the concept of jealousy being viewed as nothing but negative in many of the posts here. Myself, I would be insulted if my bf wasn't a little bit jealous. It would show me that he's afraid of losing me. A certain amount of jealousy is a compliment, IMO. I would be much more worried if he had no jealousy, as that would indicate indifference to me......(much bigger problem). I agree. I don't see jealousy as a negative. I just want to understand it better, because I think the person who is jealous is in pain. So if there is a way to reduce the trigger it would benefit both I think.
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