Author Soul Bear Posted October 14, 2009 Author Posted October 14, 2009 I was totally trying to justify myself there. At the end of the day, we can't help it, who we have feelings for. FYI - I know I'm not rebounding as I stayed away from all things like that for almost 4 months so as I could heal properly and not bury my pain. I'll proceed with caution, a wee amount of scepticism, and a huge grin on my face
EcstasyX6 Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Hi SB, I met my current bf on an online dating site. It's been six months and thousands of minutes of wonderful conversation.(Every month, he tells me how much we've talked and text. It's amazing.) This kind of thing CAN work. We live an hour apart though, and pretty much scrapped the e-mailing pretty soon. We also have a lot in common, and are equally crazy about each other. It's too bad that you can't talk on the phone more often at least. Funny, but when I heard his voice on the phone for the first time, he had me right then. Still, I worried about chemistry, which is a huge concern when you meet this way. It turned out fantastic for us, and I hope it does for you too. Despite all the commonalities, lack of chemistry can, and probably should be a deal breaker. You have seen her pic right? I agree, take it slow. Despite things seeming so great for me, I'm still proceeding cautiously. If we make it to the 1 year mark, I think we may be in it to win it. Good luck.
Author Soul Bear Posted October 14, 2009 Author Posted October 14, 2009 (edited) Ecstacy- Thankyou for sharing your story How nice to here yet another positive story about this type of thing. Of course I have seen her pictures, we made a video for each other too before our call, I have seen her pictures all the way back to 2002 on her facebook and some others too that she has sent me of her family and other events of life. This really all came out of the blue. I wasn't expecting anything at all to come from it. It wasn't even a dating site, it was just a local community website with a tiny dating section. I believe in fate, above all else, I believe in Love. Agreed tho, chemistry is a huge concern, but as was said before, if it's there over letters, photo's,video's and phone talk, why shouldn't it be there in real life?! I'm really pleased to here your story, and I wish you the best of luck Soul Edited October 14, 2009 by Soul Bear
SoulSearch_CO Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 I'll proceed with caution, a wee amount of scepticism, and a huge grin on my face You do it, SB - **** the doubters. I understand the caution involved when one has been burned badly before (and the necessity of such). But we can't be so afraid of getting hurt that we won't even leave the house. I don't see anything wrong with a meet-and-greet to see if there's a spark. It sounds like the 1st phone convo went great! I also understand thinking of all the "what-ifs," too - "if things go well, there could be a move," etc. Nothing wrong with that. It could be quite awhile down the road, but that doesn't mean it doesn't cross the mind as a possibility.
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