Author EricaH329 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 Hark, consider me "self conscious" for a couple of minor typing omissions that I have made in this thread. But I really came here to send good vibes about this evening... even though it may already be "in progress". Your intention is very well recieved and appreciated!! So I have to share a funny/awkward/embarassing moment I had earlier. No better place to share it than here!! So I was in the back (at work) doing something completely random, when he came up and asked me, "So what does 'Hey' mean with 2 y's?" Meaning 'Heyy'. I had to clarify what he meant, and once I realized what he was saying, I simply told him that it was just an extension of saying Hey. I'm sure you all know what I mean. Anyway, so he laughed and began to walk away. He then turned back and said, "Because that's what you sent me in the e-mail." :confused::confused: I was completely taken back! I had checked all of my e-mail records with the purpose of finding out whether I had e-mailed him or not. I didn't find anything. I guess I had e-mailed him!! I replied, "I e-mailed you?!" And he began to laugh and said yes, and walked away. He then walked back towards me and said, "You really don't remember e-mailing me?" And I said no. He laughed it off. I had turned bright red at this point. I didn't want to know what I had e-mailed him, I was drunk!! Anyway, the rest of the night went great. I thought he would have acted weird about it, but he didn't! We ended up talking like we usually do, there was no awkardness after that. He actually ended up taking me home tonight. I don't know what to think about all of this. I feel like he doesn't know how to interact with someone my age, but at the same time, I feel like flirting might be a universal characteristic. Ahhh... so confused!!!
Awesome Username Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I know this is terribly out of line, but I can't stop myself from picturing this guy being David Letterman.
Author EricaH329 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 I know this is terribly out of line, but I can't stop myself from picturing this guy being David Letterman. :lmao::lmao:!! I can assure you that he looks nothing like David Letterman!
Author EricaH329 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 I'm thinking that maybe I need people who are around his age to help me out. I'm completely clueless as to how to act around an older guy?!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Yay! (er, "Yayy" ?) I'm just about his age, so I can speak on the subject. You have been just about "exceptional" here when just communicating your thoughts and feelings, so play to your strengths and resolve to resist being or seeming to be someone else, when it is your own relative youth and appeal that he has become familiar with so far. But IF it is clear that the cat is out of the bag (in terms of the company gossips)... then there is simply no harm in being (more) direct (than you would be inclined to be were it some purely random 25yo guy who didn't know you from Eve). I suspect that he's thinking: "yowza - this is quite an exciting scenario to contemplate" BUT, if he's the good, solid guy you sense him to be, then he won't be the sort to reach for the utensils and help himself. THAT MEANS that you should err on the side of making your interest clear(er). And because you seem to be in this far, it wouldn't be putting much more on the table to look him directly in the eyes and suggest having dinner together one night very soon. (maybe I should back-up and get clarity on "he actually ended up taking (you) home tonight" ) As you know, that can read more than one way. But darn it, spend time with him, socially, away from work, and don't let yourself do very much drinking at all. When one-to-one with such a person, the many 20-something thoughts which surround your life won't be caused to leap out there and mold/shape his perception OF you, away from work. You have for the most part seemed very level-headed and entirely sincere while expressing yourself here, and you get many points for obviously not having had to do so. That alone enhances your qualifications for taking this dare. Be good to yourself along the way, and don't make any significant changes about yourself - "stick with what got you there" in terms of your appeal. More than anything - keep us updated!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 "the many 20-something thoughts which surround your life" (let me clarify this in advance: ) Hopefully nobody will be texting you, or calling to ask what you're going to wear to the sock hop next weekend, etc. Were you in a crowd of peers, by contrast, the many random interactions between them, and perhaps not even involving you directly, would still impact him as IF to paint youuuuuuuuuuuu with those traits. NOT that your 20-something traits are bad, but because you seem so effective at communicating your thoughts here at L.S., it seems a good idea that you play to your strengths and put forth the mature and engaging element of yourself beFORE your text message thing beeps and you respond to a girlfriend with: "Will Call U L8r B4 bed" (I am exaggerating for emphasis )
Author EricaH329 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 Yay! (er, "Yayy" ?) I'm just about his age, so I can speak on the subject. You have been just about "exceptional" here when just communicating your thoughts and feelings, so play to your strengths and resolve to resist being or seeming to be someone else, when it is your own relative youth and appeal that he has become familiar with so far. That's one of the things that I adore about him, i'm always 100% myself (probably more-so with him than anyone else) and he doesn't judge me, or seem put off by it. But IF it is clear that the cat is out of the bag (in terms of the company gossips)... then there is simply no harm in being (more) direct (than you would be inclined to be were it some purely random 25yo guy who didn't know you from Eve). I suspect that he's thinking: "yowza - this is quite an exciting scenario to contemplate" BUT, if he's the good, solid guy you sense him to be, then he won't be the sort to reach for the utensils and help himself. THAT MEANS that you should err on the side of making your interest clear(er). And because you seem to be in this far, it wouldn't be putting much more on the table to look him directly in the eyes and suggest having dinner together one night very soon. I'm a little hesistant about suggesting doing something outside of work together. Usually with the guys I like, it's easy to pick up on whether or not they are interested as well. He is tough. I can't seem to figure out whether he is attracted to me or not. I'm a little afraid to ask him to go out to dinner, because if he isn't attracted to me... I really don't want work to become uncomfortable for him. (maybe I should back-up and get clarity on "he actually ended up taking (you) home tonight" ) As you know, that can read more than one way. Ahhh... he only drove me home. Nothing happened. He is a very sweet guy, he wouldn't have tried to pull anything. But darn it, spend time with him, socially, away from work, and don't let yourself do very much drinking at all. When one-to-one with such a person, the many 20-something thoughts which surround your life won't be caused to leap out there and mold/shape his perception OF you, away from work. It's hard not to drink when around him. That sounded wrong. It's more like, towards the end of the night, he starts making shots for us to take together, and drinks for us to have. He drinks also, so it's more of a social thing than a 'I need to be drunk around him' type thing. I'd rather be sober. But as weird as this sounds, it's an activity that him and I can do together that is outside of working (even though we are at work while we are drinking) and it helps with being more open and social with eachother. (Even though, we never have an issue being open with eachother while sober). I hope that made sense. You have for the most part seemed very level-headed and entirely sincere while expressing yourself here, and you get many points for obviously not having had to do so. That alone enhances your qualifications for taking this dare. Be good to yourself along the way, and don't make any significant changes about yourself - "stick with what got you there" in terms of your appeal. More than anything - keep us updated! Thank you!! That's very kind! I will most definitely keep you updated. This could be a long one Stick with me! "the many 20-something thoughts which surround your life" (let me clarify this in advance: ) Hopefully nobody will be texting you, or calling to ask what you're going to wear to the sock hop next weekend, etc. Were you in a crowd of peers, by contrast, the many random interactions between them, and perhaps not even involving you directly, would still impact him as IF to paint youuuuuuuuuuuu with those traits. NOT that your 20-something traits are bad, but because you seem so effective at communicating your thoughts here at L.S., it seems a good idea that you play to your strengths and put forth the mature and engaging element of yourself beFORE your text message thing beeps and you respond to a girlfriend with: "Will Call U L8r B4 bed" (I am exaggerating for emphasis ) Oh, of course! I completely know what you mean. Thankfully, all of my friends are older than I am. Not in their 40's, but in their late 20's/early 30's. I don't think i'll be getting any phone calls about meeting up for the sock-hop anytime soon . If anything, i'll be getting phone calls asking to go to Lego-land (considering the majority of my friends have children) . But I completely understand your point.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 (sigh) Well, just pay special mind to the chance that he may well be attracted, and game, but might be somewhat reserved about initiating due to the double (er, triple) whammy of your youth, your working together, and his own disbelief of the idea that he could be so fortunate. We're rooting for you!!
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