tigressA Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 I guess there's a bright side to being in a theatre production that has twice as many guys to girls, most of whom are single. One of the castmates I thought was cute who was getting flirty with me I cut out because of his questionable relationship status, but now I sort of have my eyes on the stage manager. The stage manager and I have known each other for more than a year; we were in two classes together for spring term 2008. I had playfully flirted with this guy ever since rehearsals for the show began a few weeks ago, but over the last week I've noticed some sparkage between us. We've been the last two people to leave after rehearsal is over; we've hung out a few times after rehearsals. Thursday night there was a campus movie night, "The Hangover". The two of us walked over after rehearsal and sat together. I was on his left; the chair to his right was empty. He had one arm draped over each chair and I noticed a few times that when I leaned back he would briefly touch my shoulder with his hand. He insisted on giving me a ride back to my house and he hugged me goodbye in the car. Friday evening we'd gone to see the campus production of "Bakkhai", and then we went back to my house so he could run through my lines with me to see how much I already knew. We were sitting on the same couch on opposite ends, facing each other. I was tempted to figure out a way to get closer to him because he smelled so good but I didn't want to be too forward. When we said goodbye it was awkward in a good way--we hugged twice and each time it lingered, as though we were both wondering if we could try for more than a hug. There was also one time, shortly after the show was cast a few weeks ago--I'd invited him over for an impromptu dinner. I wanted chicken but felt too lazy to make it for just myself. He'd seen my Facebook status about it and made some comment about how he wanted chicken now that he'd seen my status, and I said, "Hey, come on over and I'll make some", etc. This isn't out of the ordinary for me at all; I will routinely cook for anyone who's a friend. He came over, and he brought movies--from several different genres, so he could be sure that there was something I'd like. I opted out of the movie after dinner because I was feeling tired, and I felt awkward about it at the time. I remember him seeming a little disappointed and he said he had work to do anyway, which he hadn't mentioned before. I've been having a lot of fun seeing what's out there, but I think I could have something here worth exploring further. I don't want to pursue, but I don't want to shrink back enough to make him think I'm not interested at all. Any tips would be helpful.
northstar1 Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 I'd wait till the show is over and then ask him out. Clearly he sounds interested.
Author tigressA Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 Yeah, I'm thinking waiting until after the show is over (Nov. 7th) is a good idea, if only because I could use the intervening time to get to know him better and suss out if I would want to really date him. While my castmates might already be wondering if there's something between this guy and me, I wouldn't want to give any (more) grist to the gossip mill and possibly cause some sort of weird tension, since he's second only to the director in this production. I would rather not ask him out though. I would prefer it if he were the one to do it.
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