Heartbroken-idiot Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 ive been out tonight drinking knowing my ex is out tonight and knowing she could get with another lad like that at any time she liked, and i go out just hoping that maybe i could do the same just so i dont feel so stupid and hopeless. but after drinking and thinking why are we like this? most people break up all the time and just move on and get over it like its nothing, yet the few of us on here seem to struggle with it so much. why cant we just move on and forget like everyone else does? why cant we just carry on like normal? i absolutley hate being obsessive, loving, and so cut up about everything thats happened with me and my ex because in the past 3 months its got me nowhere, just more and more pain, yes ive had good times on and off, and ive loved some of the stuff me and my ex have talked about but was it really worth it? im hurting like hell because she would like to find someone new & the thought of her doing it kills me, i just wish i didnt care. sorry for the rant its just im fed up of this, fed up of feeling, caring, loving but i know in the morning ill be wondering how she is/ if shes found someone and all the other stupid questions.
Lamak Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 It's hard for the dumpee, because many of them let one person have complete control over theirr life. You're not going out to the bars, because you want to, you're going because you feel like she's doing the same thing. The healing period isn't about hopping out the bed in a week professing that you're over someone, it's about getting to know yourself a little bit better and slowly pulling away from someone you cared about. Instead of waking up tomorrow acting like a creeper/stalker, think about trying something new or doing something different. You may still feel stuck, but ANY new action is progress. Also, stop drinking, it kills brain cells.
hoping2heal Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 ive been out tonight drinking knowing my ex is out tonight and knowing she could get with another lad like that at any time she liked, and i go out just hoping that maybe i could do the same just so i dont feel so stupid and hopeless. but after drinking and thinking why are we like this? most people break up all the time and just move on and get over it like its nothing, yet the few of us on here seem to struggle with it so much. why cant we just move on and forget like everyone else does? why cant we just carry on like normal? i absolutley hate being obsessive, loving, and so cut up about everything thats happened with me and my ex because in the past 3 months its got me nowhere, just more and more pain, yes ive had good times on and off, and ive loved some of the stuff me and my ex have talked about but was it really worth it? im hurting like hell because she would like to find someone new & the thought of her doing it kills me, i just wish i didnt care. sorry for the rant its just im fed up of this, fed up of feeling, caring, loving but i know in the morning ill be wondering how she is/ if shes found someone and all the other stupid questions. Heartbroken, you contined to have sex with your ex and open yourself up to her. Knowing it was over, you allowed yourself to chase after bad feelings and feelings of rejection. Now, you have made this breakup that much more painful and that much more messy.
Author Heartbroken-idiot Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 yes i know h2h but the thing is i love her so much im going to want her anytime, and i was thinking during, omg this is what ive waited 3 months for. i didnt know it would end up like it is atm, its so hard, and i know some of this is my fault but she also has a lot to answer for. i wish things werent so complicated.
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