Serena2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 My ex and I reconnected about 3 weeks ago. We had very tentative plans for this weekend and definate plans for the end of the month on the anniversary of the day we met. So . . . he called me today . . . told me he met someone he has chemistry with just this week, that they've been out a couple of times, that he hadn't met anyone he had chemistry with since the breakup until now, that it's in the very early stages and he doesn't know if they are compatable but he wants to explore it. I told him I was disappointed because we had just started to reconnect in our relationship. He said he understood and said that it would not be fair for us to see each other while he explores this new relationship because we were in an established relationship and not just dating. I agreed and told him he had made his choice. He said it's ironic because just as we were beginning to reconnect "this just happened." (I find it an unusual coincidence.) He said it's too early to tell where this new relationship will go and he doesn't even know whether they share the same goals or interests. He said that we will end up where we're meant to be. I am thankful for his honesty and thankful that I didn't dive fully in but I am still really hurt and disappointed. My thoughts are that if I meant anything to him he wouldn't be hedging his bets on this new relationship, rather, he'd be investing and building on what we had. Then again, he's CP and his CPism and how connected we were is what triggered the breakup. I'm so sad, hurt, and disappointed. During the converstion he repeatedly offered his help in something I am working on. I know this was in an attempt to maintain contact and I politely declined and said I could take care of it myself. I know he's going to contact me and I really don't have anything to say to him at this time. I'm going definative NC from my end and let any contact from him go to voicemail. I really need some support and insight. Thanks in advance.
JaggedRoad Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 NC sounds like a good idea in this case if you really don't have anything to say to him.
harmfulsweetz Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 (edited) Xdback, has nothing of use to actually say- I believe it is spam. Ignore it. Go NC. What a damn shame, he clearly didn't want the second chance all that badly since he found someone else. Move on, focus on you for a bit. Forget him. *hugs* I'm sorry for your pain. I guess the good thing is that you can now move on, he was honest, and hopefully, this will be a turning point. Edited October 12, 2009 by harmfulsweetz
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