danimal083 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Several weeks ago my ex started contacting me via Facebook and reluctantly I accepted her request. We have been broken up for three years now. We had a few great conversations, she told me the reason why she contacted me after such a long time was because she was constantly thinking of me, and felt that there were still some feelings for me. After two + weeks of talking online and over the phone we hung out, "just as friends," and after the uncomfortable start, we ended up having a good time. We continued to talk and hung out the next weekend. During that time we had a few weird moments, and it was obvious there was something there. We talked about it, and both agreed that if we had been dating again we would have kissed several times. I guess everything was going well, we talked about taking it slow and seeing where things will go, and if dating again would be a good idea, but ever since that last time we hung out, she's been very distant to me. She's done a complete 180 to how she was first acting to me, also considering she was the one that contacted me first. I do know she had a bad break up only a few months ago and though she says i'm not the rebound guy, she just says she is afraid to jump into a relationship.
BCCA Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I really, really hope I'm wrong...but to me, it sounds like she just wants some company, and figured she could pull a few heart strings and get it from you. I dont understand why you just didnt kiss her if you get the feeling that it was what you were both after, but my guess is she agreed with your statement to spare your feelings. I guess everything was going well, we talked about taking it slow and seeing where things will go, and if dating again would be a good idea, but ever since that last time we hung out, she's been very distant to me. She's done a complete 180 to how she was first acting to me, also considering she was the one that contacted me first. I do know she had a bad break up only a few months ago and though she says i'm not the rebound guy, she just says she is afraid to jump into a relationship All of this supports my fears, and makes me feel like you should back way off of this girl. Next time she wants to talk or hang out, just flat out ask her 'what do you want to come of all this' and if she cant really give you a straight answer, or 'doesnt know' (my all time favorite line), she just wants someone to pick her up, since shes probably down about her last split. "afraid to jump into another relationship" worries me, and generally means she wants to be able to bail at any time, without any ties. Like I said, clarity is your best friend. You need to know her motives, and if she cant tell them to you straight, you can bet the farm they aint good for you.
Lamak Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Stay away from here. It sounds like she's desperate because of her last break up. Don't be her emotional tissue, flee the situation. If you must, just let her come to you, don't analyze her confused actions.
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