Shin0bi1 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Hey all, I written a post last week about reuniting with an old flame 10 years past and thank you for the responses. Well the date when really well last weekend and there was only two snags. I tried to kiss her twice and both times were rejected. Atleast in the 2nd attempt she withdrew and then offered me her forehead to "save face". I chalked it up to that she either is not interested me in that way or she doesn't kiss guys on the 1st date. Anyways I have another date scheduled this weekend and looking forward to it. She asked me out btw since I was not sure of what her interests levels were and was playing cautious. My question is this... Why does she not want to kiss me but mentions taking a trip to another city with me over a weekend to see some theatrical play? This would require us staying in a hotel room together spending 2-3 days together. I find this strange because if you don't want to kiss me, why plan something over the top? Kinda confused... Thanks for reading... -Shin0bi1
quankanne Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 you've been friendzoned, my dear. You're sexless to her except for when she needs a male companion for social events.
Author Shin0bi1 Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 you've been friendzoned, my dear. You're sexless to her except for when she needs a male companion for social events. I see.. that was what I was afraid of... the only positive note is that we held hands, interlock fingers, and danced with each other in close proximity last weekend. But yeah, we will see this weekend how she will be in regards of how she thinks of me. I am now wondering if I should just be laid back and let her make the initiative since I obviously came out to strong for her last weekend. -Shin0bi1
quankanne Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 definitely let her take the lead ... but don't be disappointed if she doesn't take you where you're hoping to go (i.e., considers you in a romantic light) ...
redhighheels Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 No kiss (twice!) = no attraction. When you feel mad chemistry with someone, rules such as no kissing on the first date tend to fly out the window. I agree that you've been friendzoned.
boogieboy Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Dont go anywhere with her until theres a kiss. If that never happens, youre sunk. You've probably already been friendzoned.
ecm Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Sounds like she's being cautious. I would have done the same thing...especially b/c it's easy to jump right back into things if the chemistry was hot back in the day
singlegirl Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I dunno....I would push this particular envelope....Don't come on too strong but be romantic next time youre together at an opportune moment... say "can i kiss you", simple, you are in a win win situation....if she says no you haven't been physically spurned and if she says yes, great, She has to say something , best of luck with it but do turn on the romance, just incase youre being too like a friend and she's mirroring your behaviour
Author Shin0bi1 Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 I dunno....I would push this particular envelope....Don't come on too strong but be romantic next time youre together at an opportune moment... say "can i kiss you", simple, you are in a win win situation....if she says no you haven't been physically spurned and if she says yes, great, She has to say something , best of luck with it but do turn on the romance, just incase youre being too like a friend and she's mirroring your behaviour Yeah thanks for the great advice and to everyone that posted in this thread. You are absolutely right in being concerned if she mirrors. I don't want to come off too strong again but at the same time I don't want her to think I lost interest. As far as asking a girl if I can kiss them.. I thought this was a no-no. I am planning on romantically kissing her on the hand and see where that goes at the end of the night. It totally sucks tho that I have a dreaded feeling that I have been friendzoned by what other people are saying on the 1st date!! /sigh -Shin0bi1
ecm Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 did she wait to kiss you when you dated 10 years ago? Maybe she's acting like a lady
alphamale Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I written a post last week about reuniting with an old flame 10 years past and thank you for the responses. if she dumped you a decade ago then she just wants friendship....if you dumped her then she probably wants to get back together again.
singlegirl Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Nooo, my new man took me for food and put on my coat for me. he had given me the flower from the table lol After we left the restaraunt and got to a quiet spot he placed his hands gently on my sides looked deeply into my eyes and whispered "can I kiss you"...My heart is still going boompity boomp at the thought of it:love: he said it as if he expected the answer to be a yes....confidence the strongest aphrodesiac of all?
SoulSearch_CO Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 When you feel mad chemistry with someone, rules such as no kissing on the first date tend to fly out the window. TOOOOOOTALLY agree with this.
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