musicfan876 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 i would hate for that to happen. i mean i often hear a guy who is interested will call. yet a woman who is interested would also call. but the interest is something only the man should show. sucks doesn't it lol. men always call first and more often than women no matter what stage of the relationship. and they have to pay for everything or at least more than half.
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 If you don't want to call, then don't. It's really not that big of a deal. If you like girls that have more initiative, go for them instead.
BlueHarvest Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 i would hate for that to happen. i mean i often hear a guy who is interested will call. yet a woman who is interested would also call. but the interest is something only the man should show. sucks doesn't it lol. men always call first and more often than women no matter what stage of the relationship. and they have to pay for everything or at least more than half. The whole "men calling women more" stereotype is derived from men having a more dominate role in relationships, and women wanting men to chase them. Some women will initiate calls, but most frequently I've seen women return calls. They don't call guys, they expect guys to call them. That's just the way it works unfortunately. Every so often you'll find a woman who initiates calls more frequently but they are, in my experience, rare. That being said, society has changed alot over the last 3 decades and you'll find that the amount of woman who take a more proactive role in relationships has greatly increased (compared to 30 years ago).
singlegirl Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 (edited) I think men need to do the chasing on a biological level anyway, cave man stuff?...I am texting randomly unexpectedly just to make my new man not have to work too much but I get the feeling he's enjoying being dominant ...I never call him but won't leave him out on a limb..... I like being less proactive than the man as I am shy and old fashioned I like being courted ohh yeah. I did ask him of he liked surprises and have arranged a night out. He has no idea where he's going....he is loving guessing and as a happy side effect he's also thinking about me a lot haha Edited October 9, 2009 by singlegirl the ps
Author musicfan876 Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 I think men need to do the chasing on a biological level anyway, cave man stuff?...I am texting randomly unexpectedly just to make my new man not have to work too much but I get the feeling he's enjoying being dominant ...I never call him but won't leave him out on a limb..... I like being less proactive than the man as I am shy and old fashioned I like being courted ohh yeah. I did ask him of he liked surprises and have arranged a night out. He has no idea where he's going....he is loving guessing and as a happy side effect he's also thinking about me a lot haha no the dominant one is the one who gets called. it has nothing to do with men liking it this way. most men don't but us women have the power so obviously we get what we want. who cares how men feel? its women who like talking but men have to do the begging lol.
phineas Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 If she's interested, She will call me. If she doesn't, then there is always one or two that will. That's been my experiance of late.
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 no the dominant one is the one who gets called. it has nothing to do with men liking it this way. most men don't but us women have the power so obviously we get what we want. who cares how men feel? its women who like talking but men have to do the begging lol. Lol says who? You sound very femenistic.
Author musicfan876 Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 Lol says who? You sound very femenistic. so what? if men were dominant women would have to risk the rejection and men would be getting called by women. women like to talk, but men have to call. so who wins? men do more for women (what can compare to a man's unreciprocated protector role) so women are dominant.
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Just because men take all the risk doesn't mean they are less dominant. They are expected to lead in everything. Leadership is dominance.
2sure Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 First you want us to call, then you tell us we call too much. Make up our minds will you??
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Also, this thread is extremely trollish. It's a confusing mix of gloating about being on the female end of things, and provoking a challenge of some kind by prodding at guys for the fact they make most of the moves. Can't really see a point to it, or find a concise question in the OP.
Author musicfan876 Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 Just because men take all the risk doesn't mean they are less dominant. They are expected to lead in everything. Leadership is dominance. No its not. There was a book by Esther Villar in which she agreed women have easier lives. As she said are intelligence and bravery signs of dominance or requirements of servants? Men have no power. Women get to sit back and relax while men have to do all the hard work.
Author musicfan876 Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 If she's interested, She will call me. If she doesn't, then there is always one or two that will. That's been my experiance of late. I doubt this is true. doesn't this sum up how women date up? The only you have to do is : Believe they are NOT out of your league. Better yet, know that YOU are above thier league and they'll believe THAT. And right or wrong, thats what they want. You are not out of their league. And to make it easier for you...men are even more insecure than women regarding the whole league thing, so its not hard for them to assume you are the golden ring...AND men, to me, seem less interested in "dating up" than women. Women add many more things to their considerations regarding "dating up" than men do. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2426919#post2426919
theBrokenMuse Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Stop feeding the troll folks. Just look at the post history. It's all about goading, nothing more.
Author musicfan876 Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 maybe because women thought that men should always initiate first. That is how we feel our important to the guys. But women have no obligation to men to make him feel important. It is clear men would like it. Just look at what the guys on the first page said. Too bad it will never happen for men.
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