Heartbroken-idiot Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 so its been 3 days since we spoke and i really want to be the first to just sms her or send her an email finding out if shes ok but im worried by doing this ill be showing her im not strong enough to keep back untill she comes to me, but then that brings me worries on that she isnt going to contact me first. i still check her FB and i know i shouldnt and she doesnt put much on it, god this is ****ty, i miss talking to her, being with her, everything.
JaggedRoad Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 You should delete her from your facebook and block her as well.
Author Heartbroken-idiot Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 I don't have her on my friends I look through a friends account because curiosity kills me so I look. It's really hard because we are at the same Uni and I since the start of Uni we've both known what each other has been upto and everything and now we don't. I miss everything and untill last week we still were talking everyday even though we were only friends then.
Odyssey Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 (edited) Hey what you doing? Clearly all the contact with her hasn't helped, if anything, it's stopped you from moving on. So i am glad you're hitting NC now... you have got to be strong and fight the urge to check up on her life. That means cutting off everything that reminds you of her. Reading your all your posts, makes me think back to those dark days. Are you keeping yourself busy? I remember writing a list of things that i won't miss about her helped. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/ Edited October 9, 2009 by Odyssey
Author Heartbroken-idiot Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 I'm trying to keep myself busy, always around people, doing something but it's just the memories that are killing me. And not knowing how shes doing doesn't help, I guess right mow I can't move on no matter how hard I want it, because now all I'm doing is waiting for her to contact me and I don't know if she will. How do people move on when they really don't want to?
unclarity Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 i totally understand how u feel this is my first NC day and i already feel like giving up! but hang in there im sure it will get better, you guys make me strong because of some ppls posts i dont want to give up anymore, u know? i also dont want to move on, but trust me WE NEED IT hang in there, ok?
NSW768 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 what helped me is leave this place for awhile. it will only make you dwell. if you feel weak dont come here. if u need to vent thats cool, but in times of weakness just find something to take your MIND OFF THE WHOLE THING. coming here wll just make you think about when you know the right thing to do is NC. hide your phone and turn off the computer. im telling you from experience.
unclarity Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 what helped me is leave this place for awhile. it will only make you dwell. if you feel weak dont come here. if u need to vent thats cool, but in times of weakness just find something to take your MIND OFF THE WHOLE THING. coming here wll just make you think about when you know the right thing to do is NC. hide your phone and turn off the computer. im telling you from experience. interesting said... this place helps me big time, if it wasnt for the time im spending here i'd definitely had called him already!
NopeNah Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 It's obvious she was only talking to you as a friend to help her move on easier. This is why NC should be started as soon as the break up occurs. You have to stop internet "stalking", delete her number from your phone and LET HER GO! Like it or not, with or without your wants in consideration...she's already GONE! It does get easier with NC..It's the only way to heal and move on.
Thebob Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Just say, "I'm awesome, their not"... keep yourself busy and DONT BUST OUT THAT CELLPHONE OR COMPUTER TO CHECK UP ON HER.... lock it in a safe... If you contact her or him you are back to phase 1 and then your just as miserable as ever. I was in your shoes, and I still am but it's getting so much better. TRUST ME! keep up the "NC" and he/she will come crawlin back to you, but don't rely on it... move on with your life.
Author Heartbroken-idiot Posted October 11, 2009 Author Posted October 11, 2009 well another day gone and still not broken it. i LOVE HER WITH EVERYTHING even if she wants to be like this... at the end of the day its her missing out of what could be perfect... because i would give her my all... sillyyyy (sorry im drunk again, but my excuse is i am a student ) ps im from the UK its not 9pm is 3am, not a really early drunk
ttriplett Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 I broke NC after 2 weeks and I don't feel any better or worse. Its back to day 1 for me...DOn't do it..
Thebob Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 keep it up, Ill be super dissapointed in you if you break your NC. I wont break it if you dont break yours lol. KEEP IT UP!!!!! Refuse yourself from picking that phone up or computer. you better promise me that you wont ever contact her. That is the point of NC.
Author Heartbroken-idiot Posted October 11, 2009 Author Posted October 11, 2009 well its 5 days of NC now and its really not getting any easier, i just want to tell her that i miss her and i hope shes ok. i have no idea how she is, im guessing shes coping because she hasnt contacted me. will this get any easier? i still continue to look at her FB even though nothing has changed on it for days. i saw someone else posting the other day and for 5 mins i thought it might have been her as she was saying some things that sounded so much like what we went through and the days of her not being contacted but it turned out it wasnt, this made me feel quite low as the poster was saying she was missing hearing from her ex that she broke up with. :(
tommo66 Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 keep going no contact, i have been no contact for 4 months, it does get better. good luck
wontgohomewou Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I've been NC since June. First 2 weeks SUCK, but eventually you get over it. Stick to it, curiosity killed the cat and it's killing you inside. It gets easy, just be strong enough to stick with it. You shouldn't want her to contact you, you should want to have nothing to do with her. That's the point of NC, for you to move on, not for to come back.
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