Nynnja Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 (Link to my previous post: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2380806#post2380806) So here I am again. It's been (however long) since I decided NC (my last post) and i'm doing good. Fantastic, other than the fact that I can't get used to the dating scene again lol. But anyway. Two nights ago, my ex messaged me. After our last "fight" and going strictly NC (which I thought was forever) she SMS me to say "Hey." Curiosity got the best of me, and I asked what her motive was behind the text, or if she was just bored, and her reply was "No, just checking in." My first thought is "Checking in on what? Me? Seeing how well i'm doing without you?" But I simply ask her "Is it anything specific?" and she says "No." so I say "Okay, well i'm going to go. Tell your mom and baby sister I said 'hi' for me." (I still love her mom and sister, they're like my own and have never done me wrong). Her response is "Okay, i'm going to bed anyway. 'Bingo' (the human-sized stuffed dog I gave her the last valentines day we were together) says hi. Yes I still sleep with him. He's too soft. Don't be afraid to message me. Cya" At which point I stopped contact again. Haven't heard from her since. My question is: Why SMS me all of the sudden? Especially after our last falling out? Why is she really "checking in" and did I handle the situation okay? I'm not the type to be a complete a**-hole to anyone regardless of the circumstance so I didn't want to just ignore it. And why does she say "Don't be afraid to message me" now of all times? Last time we talked she was fine if I dropped off the earth for all eternity.
Exit Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Nobody here will be able to understand her motives any more than you can. Almost sounds like she misses you, or at least wants to be able to talk to you again, but this doesn't require any action on your part. I'd stay on the course that you've been following, don't pay her much attention, if she wants anything more than being able to "chat" every once in a while, eventually she'll tell you.
Tamia78 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I think you handled it extremely well. And you haven't heard from her since, right? To me it kinda sounds like she wanted to she if you would come running if she contacted you.You didn't. Good for you! I only hope I handle it half as well as you did if my ex contacts me. --T
Author Nynnja Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 Thank you for the kind words And you're 100% right, Exit, if she wants anything more than to just see how i'll react to her occasional message, she'll let me know. I guess i'm just reading too much into it, like i usually do
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