fofiffs Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Well been seven months since I was dumped by the ex and it hits me tonight. I've been doing great the last few months with NC. I really thought I was over her but for some reason I started to miss her. I started to think about all the great times we had when we were together. I guess I just miss the comfort of being with someone. I decided to also check her myspace and I guess she's moved on and is with someone else. I know bad move on my part. I guess I just wanted to see how she has been. But I do know I am moving on. Tonight is just one of those relapse nights. Just a little rant and it has been a while since I posted on here.
ATR Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I know how you feel man. I am over her (10months now) but i still get that feeling that i did enjoy my time with her and it would have been nice to still be with her. On the other hand, i now know shes a cheating *****. I saw her boyfriends profile picture through a mutual friends friends on facebook. Her and the guy she cheated on me for are still together all cuddled up together - to be honest it made me laugh, i didnt feel pain just abit shaken (was the first time i had seen her face in 10months) One thing that made me LOL my heart out was that she had a piercing through the septum in her nose - a ring. I hate piercings and i just went all over my keyboard - jokes. But i did laugh at her - she looked like a bull. When you find someone new you'll find that it isnt you missing her, but rather just missing the company of someone else, which is human instinct.
Exit Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Relapses are normal. It's about six months for me, I finally started healing a few weeks ago and I've been feeling great, but tonight hanging out at my friends house I was sitting there spaced out the whole time thinking about my ex. I've been talking to new girl and we were thinking of meeting up tomorrow but then she didn't answer me when I contacted her today, so in some strange way, feeling somewhat rejected by this new person sent me back to thinking about my ex. You'll be okay. One of the books I read talked about how healing does not follow a linear path, you'll go through the various stages of healing many times over, breaking down, being sad, getting angry, letting go, then breaking down all over again. But each time you go through the process it gets a little bit easier.
Tamia78 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Ooh...checking Myspace........bad idea. Lord knows I've done it. I'm afraid to do it for the reason you mentioned. He'll probably have some girl in his picture. That would kill me. Sorry you had a relapse. After a while, you do start remembering just the good times. Funny, all those bad times you had just never seem to cross your mind, do they? --T
Nedved Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Its 5 months this saturday since my ex broke up with me and i still get the odd evening when i get sentimental and think of her. I've been on strict NC for almost the whole 5 months bar a few texts we sent about 6 weeks ago. If i'm being honest i don't think i'd take her back even if she wanted to but i do miss talking to her and laughing with her. I think its normal to miss them and its gonna happen from time to time but as time go's by it'l become less frequent. Anger used to accompany the nice thoughts of her and i'm glad those thoughts are gone. I'm at the stage now where i smile and laugh to myself now when i think of the good times and they don't make me sad like they used to. I would hope that the healing for me is almost complete but i still get sentimental some evenings to. Its normal. Try not to dwell on it to much man. Remember the past and look forward to a bright future.
Arabella Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I keep avoiding his Myspace/Facebook because even though it's only been a couple of weeks since we broke up, I know that I'm going to see something I can't handle. Avoid doing that... it doesn't matter how long it goes by. Til you're happy with someone else, you won't be able to look at her picture with another person and be truly indifferent. Arabella
rainbowsandkittens Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 wow, should not have read this thread. i didn't even think about myspace maybe bc i'm never on it. just got curious and checked my space just now for him. turns out he had a page from last year when he was at another stage in his life. AND THEN it turns out he created a new page the night that we first went on a "break" about 2 weeks before we broke up for good. he really just put up a pic and has 2 friends- 1 of which i know of, the other i don't- and hasn't posted anything since that night but still. it makes me realize all over again how hard he was/ is trying to date other people and how much i really don't know him. just finding that page made it hurt all over again. wow. crud.
Arabella Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 wow, should not have read this thread. i didn't even think about myspace maybe bc i'm never on it. just got curious and checked my space just now for him. I warned you... I'm sorry you're hurting. That's the exact reason why I'm avoiding looking him up even though I know he's got both Myspace and Facebook profiles because he's mentioned it before. Nothing good can come from it... Arabella
rainbowsandkittens Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 i know. i shouldn't have looked. i was curious and i blocked him on facebook so i guess part of it was i wanted to see his face. well, i saw it alright. it's not like there was anything ground breaking on there that should upset me (although friending a bisexuial 21 year old with a kid seems slightly odd to me; we're way older than that). it was more the idea of it i guess. as one of my friends just said to me though- maybe it was good for me to see it so i don't sit around thinking about how "perfect" our relationship was and instead see it and him for real. i sort of ignore the fact that he went behind my back and created a new online dating profile. i mean, i don't ignore it but i don't really let it sink in like i should. sorry to hijack the thread.
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