Always Fall In Love Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 So I'm on holidays and I go to a European strip club. Every chick in there is banging. Sitting next to me is one stripper, not working, not trying to get tips. The only stripper in the club doing nothing. So after about 40 minutes I eventually start talking to her "Why do you look so sad?" Our conversation progresses, I ask for her number to take her to lunch, she says ok, gives it to me and says call me tomorrow. I do and we go to lunch together and drink. She kisses me. That night she wants to spend more time with me, she informs me that she cannot, she has to work but I can pay her club $500US as an escort and we can stay together in the main clubbing area. Bear in mind her club is a strip club and not any other type of club. Prostitution is strictly prohibited. Initially I did not want to but I was having such a good time with her that I agreed to. We went and drank some more, played pool, she was all over me and I was likewise. It was very hot and we had been drinking all day so I said "I'm going to go to hotel to have shower, get changed and come back out, do you want to come?" Even though she's not allowed, she says ok. On the way there, she laughs and says "No funny business at the hotel" I say ok...and honestly I did not have plans for funny business. At the hotel, she hits on me and it all happens. She has to leave at 5am the next morning as escort has finished. The next day we go for lunch again, drink again, I pay for escort again, this time night and day escort $1,000. We have a great time, great sex and then my holiday is over and I have to go back home. Back at home, I speak everyday with the stripper on skype I know that I've fallen in love, she seems to be likewise. 2 weeks later, I go back to visit her. First night, I see her in strip club, we are kissing, all over each other. 2nd day I cannot see her, she is busy. That night she works again. The next day we go to restaurant, I end up paying night escort and day escort again and we have a great time. At this point if you are reading you are probly thinking that she is a prostitute but I can guarantee you that this club is not a whore house. I asked other girls in there before I talked to my chick, would they take $2000US for sex for 1/2 hr. They all said no and that this was not allowed. Anyway, through the day my stripper and one of her friends is at my hotel (without any paid escort or anything), and they are talking in their native tongue for 2 hours.....not including me in the conversation as I do not understand the language. I had been drinking all day and thought that this was a bit rude considering I had travelled back from overseas to visit her and the time she was spending here was spent talking to her friend rather than with me. I'm not interested in short term sex, one night stands and the like. I am a relationship type of guy. While I'm sitting around the hotel room doing nothing, watching tv, listening to those two speak in their tongue, thinking about how rude it was while intoxicated, I could sense that I was about to ruin this relationship. They said that they were going to go and get something to eat, did I want to come. I replied no, I wasn't hungry. What I really wanted was to just spend time with my chick only, not her friend. I didn't mind her friend being there but if they were going to speak their native language to each other, what was I supposed to do there? I tried to get involved in conversation but was never able to. My girl asked for money to go to restaurant and I said here you go and they left. I felt like a piece of ****. Here I am travelled back international for her and she just wants to speak to her friend and go and eat rather than spending time with me. Maybe I was drunk, maybe I was too sensitive, I don't know! Anyway, after she left I sent her a message that said we are finished. She came back, we had argument and she left and that's it... I feel like ****. I am 24, had two serious long term girlfriends in my life (once divorced) and here I am again. Even while I'm sober now I don't think her behaviour was very good last night. I thought it was rude. If she travelled to my country to see me I don't think I would ignore her like that and I definately would not exclude her from social conversations to the extent they did. I've just sobered up the next morning and I'm torn about what I think. I am heartbroken. Yes I miss her but what can you do if you feel as though they aren't treating you right. So bring it on. Call me a dickhead, call me an idiot, call me whatever you like haha but I'm interested to read objective opinions.
bluegreen12 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 She's making thousand dollars a day, why did she have to ask you for money to get something to eat? Think about it.
CaliGuy Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Just an FYI, she's a hooker. You paid a hooker for sex. They don't love or respect you. You're just a JOB to them. I'm sure you realize this now...
sweetjasmine Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I'm not interested in short term sex, one night stands and the like. I am a relationship type of guy. Then why were you asking strippers at a club whether they'd take $2000 for a half hour of sex? Your girl's a prostitute. You'd be better off forgetting about her and finding someone who you don't have to pay $500 to spend time with.
boldjack Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Pal, what you have been doing, is paying a prostitute. Think back, the only times you were with her , was after you paid. She was not interested in you either before, or after, her escort duties were over. When you asked th other girls if they were hookers, of course they said no, they are escorts. If you were to ask any hooker the same question, you would probably get the same answer. Forget about it, you learned a good lesson and had a good time, but you should be tested for STD's to be on the safe side.
Trimmer Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Sitting next to me is one stripper, not working, not trying to get tips. And yet, 48 hours later, you had paid her $1500 for the pleasure of her company and sex. It just didn't look like she was working. Not as a stripper anyway.
JamesM Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Escorts are paid for "time and companionship." Anything else is what happens between consenting adults. She is doing her job to be with you. My guess is she spotted you as a "mark" when you first came into the strip club. If you had written that story and she had wanted to spend time with you as simply a friend and not as an escort, then I would say she may have similar feelings. Knowing that she is being paid to spend time with you and wants to run off with her friend, I can confidently say that she is using you. Her club doesn't get all of that money. She gets 40% or 50% at least, I am guessing. So, she is getting paid to be with you. Chalk it up as a learning experience. Quit spending money on her unless you keep in mind that this is simply a business transaction. You are a lonely guy and she is a woman who can fill that need. As long as you have money that you are willing to spend on her, then she will "love" you. And yes, she will email and skype you as needed, because she knows that then you will visit her (and pay for it) the next time you are in her town. Hopefully, you just won't be in town at the same time as another of her "boyfriends."
batinhell66 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Oh god, I'm so sorry, I just laughed out loud while reading this. While it definitely sucks to be in your situation, I understand her motives. "Prohibited" is a term almost all strip clubs use when discussing sex. Obviously if sex was the deal, then it would be a massage parlor or a whorehouse. Even craigslist lists the $$$ as "roses". Even if you're in a different country or state that allows prostitution, I'm pretty sure an additional license would have to be involved. What you just described to me is most def prostitution (but hey, I have a huge definition of prostitution, and having quite a number of prostitute friends, I have a fairly open mind about it) and damn. Being an ex-sex industry worker bee, I can gather from the information that you were tricked. She hangs out with you when you pay her, then when you don't she's working her strip club job. Everyone knows that if a stripper/hooker/porn star (grouped not because it's the same job description, but lots of $$$ are being made) likes you, they pay. Trust me or ask my boyfriend. We tend to love the broke, sweet, starving artist guys and force feelings for rich guys that walk into strip clubs. I could write an anthropological paper on these findings and I'm sure someone could write a psychological study, but I digress. Also, she asked you for money to eat. I'm pretty damn sure she has enough money to eat. Secondly, she was all over you one night at a strip club. Then she can't see you the next night being "busy" and all. So you buy another night with her. She's smart. She's utilizing the "Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free" and "Baiting" and "Leave him hanging" techniques. Can't give you any rules or objective criticism to how you feel for her, but I can say that next time, should there be a next time, you remember: 1) If you date a stripper/escort and take her out, she should offer to pay for at least one thing or at the very least, be super thankful. (Like a regular girl, because besides the job, she is) 2) If you find that you are still paying for her time after she confesses to "feelings" or a "connection", then bail because she wants your money, not you. 3) If you still want to date a banging stripper/escort with hot moves, then try for a reformed one that used to do those things. No one really quits for a guy in the first couple months, and some never do. If you're as sensitive and "relationship-savvy" as you say you are, then dating a stripper/escort can be a bad choice. Hope that helps. Hang in there, homie.
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