D-Lish Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Why do some guys think that posting profile pics of themselves with their arms draped around Hooter girls or bar skanks is a good idea? When I see that I immediately think: This person is really insecure, and it's a big turn off for me. I just got a message from a guy and he had 3 pics. One with him at a car show with a staged picture of him and two budlight girls - the next with him at a bar in between two girls in boobie tops and the last one was a decent pic of him on his own. I probably would have messaged him back based on the one of him alone- but the fact that he felt the need to include the other two pics was a deal breaker. It just gives me the impression of insecurity - and I see it all the time. I always wonder- what are you trying to accomplish by presenting these pictures? When guys post these pictures, what is the logic behind it? Some women may not be turned off by it - so just curious what people think.
westernxer Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 It's equally annoying when a female displays pictures with her girlfriends at some bar or has her arms around some dude. I've gone out of my way a few times to ask if the sausage is included.
Author D-Lish Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 It's equally annoying when a female displays pictures with her girlfriends at some bar or has her arms around some dude. I've gone out of my way a few times to ask if the sausage is included. I agree that it goes both ways. But I wouldn't post a pic like that, wouldn't even think of it. So I am trying to figure out the logic behind doing so. What responses do you get when you ask if the sausage is included, lol.
westernxer Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 What responses do you get when you ask if the sausage is included, lol. They just plug their noses at me. LOL
melodymatters Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 It's equally annoying when a female displays pictures with her girlfriends at some bar or has her arms around some dude. I've gone out of my way a few times to ask if the sausage is included. While I think we all ( or we three so far) can agree that drunken pics with arms slung over "pals" isn't the best presentation. There IS a difference that I am seeing. The girl in this scenario is posing with GIRL friends, or perhaps MALE friends. What D seems to be describing ( and I have seen this a lot before or I wouldn't be commenting) Is the "pic with some chick who is a stripper/hooter chick/ car show model", when they don't even KNOW these people. It DOES reek of insecurity ( and immature charater) IMO, and is a way bigger turn off than the friends in the bar, pics.
mortensorchid Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Or how about those guys who post headless torsos? That's lame too.
Author D-Lish Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 I can't stand the ones where the guys have their shirts off (guys would probably love it if we posed that way lol). Or "making muscles" or with their big boat or car or whatever. Or too many pictures. Any hint of vanity and I'm gone. Also hate the one's where someone is OBVIOUSLY cut out of the photo. Is it that hard to get a photo of yourself? Is that the ONLY time you looked that good? I don't like the naked chest flexing poses either. Especially when it's a web cam still shot! I accept a "beach" photo if it's a candid shot;) I always wonder the same thing- do you need to be obvious by photo-shopping out the ex gf? I saw a photo tonight - a head shot of a guy lying on a pillow with a girls head next to him- it was obviously self taken with the arms stretched out...but the girl's face was scratched out!
Lizzie60 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 The ones I laugh most about.. are the ones who obviously took their picture in front of their computer screen (webcam) (they get that blueish pale face ) and topless... wonder what were they doing..
boogieboy Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 The pictures are only one blunder... I thought you were going to list more blunders....
hopesndreams Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I wondered that myself. Why would a grown man pose with a hooter chick, post it on a dating site and expect to get a date? You would think it was a joke of some sort but when you read their profile they are seriously looking for a long term commitment, they are sensitive, sincere and all that other bs. Strange.
sumdude Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Y'know, I never really went checking out other guys profiles.. but what you describe is utter lameness.
Star Gazer Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Oh, oh, oh! What about the shirtless bathroom-mirror shots?
IrishCarBomb Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 When guys post these pictures, what is the logic behind it? The [faulty] logic behind it is: "Hey! Look at this! I'm with some hot girls! You're a hot girl, and since you can clearly see that these hot girls like me, you will no doubt like me too!! I must be attractive by association!!!" I must confess, it works to some degree. Probably not as much on a dating profile, but when I'm out with some of my better looking female friends, girls seem more intersted in me.
Citizen Erased Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Or how about those guys who post headless torsos? That's lame too. And creepy.
IrishCarBomb Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Oh, oh, oh! What about the shirtless bathroom-mirror shots? Oh the humanity...
Citizen Erased Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Oh, oh, oh! What about the shirtless bathroom-mirror shots? Headless, shirtless bathroom mirror shots. :eek: I blame Myspace for those photos, they started it I swear.
Star Gazer Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I blame Myspace for those photos, they started it I swear. Yeah, that's true. Does anyone even MS anymore?
Citizen Erased Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Yeah, that's true. Does anyone even MS anymore? Yeah, the people that think they're too "cool" for facebook!
enchanted771 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I can't stand the ones where the guys have their shirts off (guys would probably love it if we posed that way lol). Or "making muscles" or with their big boat or car or whatever. Or too many pictures. Any hint of vanity and I'm gone. Also hate the one's where someone is OBVIOUSLY cut out of the photo. Is it that hard to get a photo of yourself? Is that the ONLY time you looked that good? I agree!!!! it is soooooooooooo annoying! i cannot stand show-offs! just be yourself! pics of vacation, friends, etc is okay, but leave the bimbos out of it. Total turn-off and i skip that profile.
BCCA Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 The girl in this scenario is posing with GIRL friends, or perhaps MALE friends Unless it says 'me and my brother' or something under it, how would anyone know who it was in the pic? It could be an ex or some random douche you hooked up with, neither of which are flattering. I think we can all agree that unless the pic specifically states who the person is, and why you are in this pic with them (as in, 'me and my sister at her wedding', etc) its obnoxious. No one wants to see a potential dating partner hugged-up with with a memeber of the opposite sex, without any idea who the person is, especially if the pic is suggestive at all (as in, they are embracing, hugging, etc). I'll give you that a guy with models is SUPER DUPER lame, but like I said, unless you tell me why this dude is in your pics, Im probably going to assume hes an ex, or not related to you, which = weak/insecure. Has anyone noticed that the 'larger' people are, the more likely they are to stick with head shots, or photos that dont show them standing? Its gotten to the point where I assume any pic that only shows their head = the person is overweight lol Is that terrible?
jerbear Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Great, D licious! you just made me go change my facebook pictures and those on my online dating sites. The girl with her girlfriends is fine with me just they need to identify who they are. It does not help to say they are the blonde in the picture when all the gals are blonde. Funny about the guy friends in the picture versus those that identify the guys are their cousins or brothers. Other blunders are the scanned pictures where you know the ex was in it. Another are the smiley aka over the face.
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 That's why online dating is so overrated. What ever happened to good old fashioned initiative in public? Haven't had any trouble meeting girls that way.
BobSacamento Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 I honestly think 95% of on-line daters make these mistakes. The other 5% are massive whales.
westernxer Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 How about the people who post older photos? I'm talking about photos from five years ago. It's a shock when you meet in person and find out they're not what you thought they were. LOL
Author D-Lish Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 As Irishcarbomb said, the logic seems to be: look at me, I'm with hot women- if you're hot, you'll like me too... lol. Bragging of any sort screams insecurity. The other blunder I often see is the negative profile. Someone who seems angry at the opposite gender. Sometimes it's just an undertone- but what a major turn off that is. The shirtless pic in the mirror taken with a camera or cell phone is just plain creepy, lol. Any other "that's so wrong" examples anyone has?
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