Yashy Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Hiya I came across this forum and wanted to share my story with you. I met this beautiful girl on the platform of a train. From a hello, it soon became a relationship. We ended up living together and were incredibly happy. She wasn't like any of the girls I had gone out with; she was extremely loving and sweet, very gentle and always corrected me if I said a bad word about anyone. I have a big family, who adored her; my own mother would side with her at times as she loved her that much. We were together for 3 years. Around one month ago, we had her birthday with friends. In her own words "I couldn't stop staring at you tonight". The next day I took her out, we had a beautiful time. The following day, she had to head away for 4 days for some training due to her job. All she could do was moan about having to go and wanted her and I to spend time together instead. Either way, she went. Whilst up there, she called me and was great. On the penultimate night, I didn't hear from her until 3am. But I didn't mind as I wanted her to enjoy herself with the new people she had met there. Then she came back and I could sense a change. At first, it started with 'i feel nostalgic and miss those people I was with'. She stopped speaking about the future suddenly. Then she kept going through this phase, up and down...up and down. One day she was great, the next day she was distant and very cold. Two weeks later "darling, I think we should break up". I was in shock and agony, but I didn't plead. I did shed tears evidently, but I didn't beg or ask her to stay. I told her that I loved her dearly and that I couldn't understand this. I figured that it had something to do with another guy, but she claimed her feelings had grown for someone whilst there, but that only triggered her thoughts. Either way, she was out of the apartment by the next day. I've just found out, that she's already slept with the guy by now who doesn't even live in the UK. The dude lives in France, it happened during a visit there from her. It's been literally 4 weeks since the breakup. My shock is that this girl told me 'you're my little future', after 3 years and being so loving towards her, opening up my family to her, that she could literally be sleeping with someone by now. I'm keeping this short, but she is in touch with him, so it's not a one-nighter kind of thing. I'm in awe! How does someone do that? Have any of you been through something similar? I just don't get how you go from 'i love you with all of my heart, I don't want to leave'...to 'I think we should break up'. At least, if she had feelings elsewhere, it's understandable and can be resolved. But walking out the door?!! I've had some bad girlfriends before and they did upset me, but I never trusted them. With her, it was someone I entirely trusted regardless of the company she was in, I never worried and she was as far as I knew extremely kind and loving. At least with the others, I expected it. But not with her, not at all; so how do you go about trusting a sweet girl again? It's as if women go through these phases during the ages of 20-24. I don't want to generalise, but I'm just so heartbroken. I get up everyday in the apartment and see her face, she was my angel; but I get on with my day head to the gym and workout, go to work etc. But it's damn hard. I hope that people reading this haven't/won't go through this, as it's unpleasant, especially when the most trusted person you had, does this to you.
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