musicfan876 Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 i feel so bad for men. look at how good dating is for us women. -Men chase women. There is no such thing as a woman who chases a man. A woman might approach a man and let him know she is open to being chased. She will give signs that she is enjoying being chased and he should continue. As that psychology article said men do not even get to choose who to have sex with. - Since a woman has so many options she becomes choosier than the man. As such men develop good personalities and traits. Women don't develop that many good traits and all women end up marrying up in terms of finances and personality and whatever. -The average man will never have as many women chasing him as the average woman has men chasing her. -Women do not consider a man's character or looks. They look at his accomplishments. The love is shallow. -Therefore if men and women started asking out in equal numbers the rejection would still fall on the man. -Women date multiple men or more men. -Only women have lists of back up men. If a man does the woman’s list is longer. -Women rarely have to compete or physically fight over men as much as men do over women. even other women admit it and brag about it. With that said, yes, when you run into a gal, she's going to have a guy "on the line". There are few attractive women on this planet that don't have an option A, B, and C in the background. Having options in the background does not mean they're boyfriend/girlfriend. Female replies I do. It's not my fault that men make the line. If women would do it, men would be the ones keeping the line. Look at professional athletes. Bash them too for having lines of groupies and what not. EVERYONE is doing it, if they can. Now get over it. The most coveted person has the longer line. And I will always keep other people as prospects. This is the huge hypocrisy. You cry about it only because you can't do it. Lol Whoah! Totally disagree with that one. There are very very few attractive women who are void of men in their lives. I'm not saying sleeping with -- I'm saying guys they keep in contact with in the pre-dating process, or in the sorta-dating process, etc. In other words, you will be walking in as an option A, B, or C, depending on where you squeeze in. And if you truly hit it off, then the other options will disappear from her radar. It's particularly very common with women who "go slow". They go slow so they can play the field better, as they want to avoid jumping into a wrong situation and at the same time not get tied into emotional problems when doing such shopping. Even then men do everything to take care of women and give more(more comfort, more dinners out, more massages etc). They pay for EVERYTHING or at least more than what we pay for. http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20091008075413AAoxieJ&r=w Women can get dates no matter what. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiVhTIH33TsUV6Iz87te7uUjzKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20090729010858AAZECpa
Hop_prophet Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 I'm not going to argue with you on that one. I rather like the advantages of being a guy though .
Trialbyfire Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 musicfan, how many usernames and genders, do you need?
Author musicfan876 Posted October 8, 2009 Author Posted October 8, 2009 lol everyone avoided the actual topic lol.
Unsuccessful Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 Your statement is a generalization. It might be easier for some women, but not for all. I am a woman. In all of my life (I am over 40 now), I have had probably 5 guys total chase me. They all were substance abusers/ex-cons, so I had no interest, even though I tried to date them, just to give them a chance in case I misjudged them. I have never had someone be interested in me that I could be interested in. When I have tried flirting with guys, I get rejected 100% of the time. I have never had backups A, B and C waiting around. It would just be nice to have a decent boyfriend with character for once in my life, but I am getting older so I doubt that will happen now.
enchanted771 Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 What i would give for a semi-attractive man who knows how to treat a woman and doesn't want to serial date!!! i DONT have it easy. HA
C-i-C-u Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 Because men are not monagamous and women are stupid. It all works out in the end.
phineas Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 Ok. some women have options. yet it seems to me they still screw it up by making the jerk's options A & / or B & by the time they figure that out some other woman has allready come along & snatched up option C.
Author musicfan876 Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 (edited) Your statement is a generalization. It might be easier for some women, but not for all. I am a woman. In all of my life (I am over 40 now), I have had probably 5 guys total chase me. They all were substance abusers/ex-cons, so I had no interest, even though I tried to date them, just to give them a chance in case I misjudged them. I have never had someone be interested in me that I could be interested in. When I have tried flirting with guys, I get rejected 100% of the time. I have never had backups A, B and C waiting around. It would just be nice to have a decent boyfriend with character for once in my life, but I am getting older so I doubt that will happen now. How many guys did you chase? The only time women get rejected is when ugly waitresses try to chase handsome doctors or something. Most women have 5 guys chasing them at any time. Most women have 5 men chasing them AND 5 backups. Women have it good. Men have to do all the work and pay for everything. And their reward is sex. BUT even in sex men do most of the work and give more than they take. so women win again hahaha. just look at all the things men have to do for women. they even have to be willing to sacrifice their bodies to protect them. Edited October 9, 2009 by musicfan876
2sure Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Dating is easier for women??!! That is soooo wrong. First, you have figure out , without banging him, if he has a package you like. Sure, you can check his shoes, see how happy he is to see you...but its all very deceiving. It takes real time and effort to know this for sure before giving it up. And THEN...if you judged incorrectly, theres that whole conversation once you get everything unwrapped. The conversation with yourself "Do I do it just to be nice?" And the conversation with him "OMG, I just remembered I have a yeast infection." THEN, if that goes well..you have to figure out the whole money thing. And yes, he can drive a nice car, have a good job...but its the NET you have to figure out ..and thats hard. Nothing, nothing easy about it. Its like a freaking job.
Hkizzle Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Errr........dating is easier for either sexes at different stages. Women are the selectors in most cases at the beginning, thus that have the most power at the start. They are the ones who decided whether to have sex with a man or not in the vast majority of cases as well. The power woman have switches over when they get emotionally attached. The dynamics is simple. Women find it much easier to attract the opposite sex, but much harder to find a decent man or keeping a commited man. If I was an average girl with the knowledge I have about men, I could get sex every single night of the week with a guy if I wished. That just shows where the differences in power at each stage lies.
northstar1 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Errr........dating is easier for either sexes at different stages. Women are the selectors in most cases at the beginning, thus that have the most power at the start. They are the ones who decided whether to have sex with a man or not in the vast majority of cases as well. The power woman have switches over when they get emotionally attached. The dynamics is simple. Women find it much easier to attract the opposite sex, but much harder to find a decent man or keeping a commited man. If I was an average girl with the knowledge I have about men, I could get sex every single night of the week with a guy if I wished. That just shows where the differences in power at each stage lies. Oh, I dunno HK. With those muscles, and your knowledge you have, I'm sure you could do just fine with men right now as you are.
stepka Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Errr........dating is easier for either sexes at different stages. Women are the selectors in most cases at the beginning, thus that have the most power at the start. They are the ones who decided whether to have sex with a man or not in the vast majority of cases as well. The power woman have switches over when they get emotionally attached. The dynamics is simple. Women find it much easier to attract the opposite sex, but much harder to find a decent man or keeping a commited man. If I was an average girl with the knowledge I have about men, I could get sex every single night of the week with a guy if I wished. That just shows where the differences in power at each stage lies. Kizzle, people underestimate you on here, but I think you have brilliant insight. The fact is, that as soon as we have sex with a man, we have handed over our power, which makes me wonder how liberated we women really are these days. I'm keeping mine a lot closer to home these days.
Hkizzle Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Oh, I dunno HK. With those muscles, and your knowledge you have, I'm sure you could do just fine with men right now as you are. Yes, I love bending over in the showers in the gym..........
Author musicfan876 Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 Errr........dating is easier for either sexes at different stages. Women are the selectors in most cases at the beginning, thus that have the most power at the start. They are the ones who decided whether to have sex with a man or not in the vast majority of cases as well. The power woman have switches over when they get emotionally attached. The dynamics is simple. Women find it much easier to attract the opposite sex, but much harder to find a decent man or keeping a commited man. If I was an average girl with the knowledge I have about men, I could get sex every single night of the week with a guy if I wished. That just shows where the differences in power at each stage lies. haha don't fool yourself. the power is always in the woman's hand. that's why women get forgiven for our unfaithfulness more often and have back up men at any stage in a relationship. nice try though.
Author musicfan876 Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 Kizzle, people underestimate you on here, but I think you have brilliant insight. The fact is, that as soon as we have sex with a man, we have handed over our power, which makes me wonder how liberated we women really are these days. I'm keeping mine a lot closer to home these days. well liberated would mean equal power anyways. but who cares about that?
Hkizzle Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 haha don't fool yourself. the power is always in the woman's hand. that's why women get forgiven for our unfaithfulness more often and have back up men at any stage in a relationship. nice try though. Ok, well you're talking about someone that's cheating and a manipulator. Across the entire population of males and females however, power dynamics are different at different stages. I'm not trying to start a pissing contest, I'm just giving realistic intellectual input.
Author musicfan876 Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 Dating is easier for women??!! That is soooo wrong. First, you have figure out , without banging him, if he has a package you like. Sure, you can check his shoes, see how happy he is to see you...but its all very deceiving. It takes real time and effort to know this for sure before giving it up. And THEN...if you judged incorrectly, theres that whole conversation once you get everything unwrapped. The conversation with yourself "Do I do it just to be nice?" And the conversation with him "OMG, I just remembered I have a yeast infection." THEN, if that goes well..you have to figure out the whole money thing. And yes, he can drive a nice car, have a good job...but its the NET you have to figure out ..and thats hard. Nothing, nothing easy about it. Its like a freaking job. you know very weel womne easily exploit men everyday. The only you have to do is : Believe they are NOT out of your league. Better yet, know that YOU are above thier league and they'll believe THAT. And right or wrong, thats what they want. You are not out of their league. And to make it easier for you...men are even more insecure than women regarding the whole league thing, so its not hard for them to assume you are the golden ring...AND men, to me, seem less interested in "dating up" than women. Women add many more things to their considerations regarding "dating up" than men do. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2426919#post2426919
Author musicfan876 Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 Ok, well you're talking about someone that's cheating and a manipulator. Across the entire population of males and females however, power dynamics are different at different stages. I'm not trying to start a pissing contest, I'm just giving realistic intellectual input. nope always in the woman's favor. women can easily exploit men's insecurities. women have to offer less but get more. women marry up. men don't even get to pick who to have sex with. women are the selectors. read the quote below.
You'reasian Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 nope always in the woman's favor. women can easily exploit men's insecurities. women have to offer less but get more. women marry up. men don't even get to pick who to have sex with. women are the selectors. Action favors the woman and she can pick but why is every other woman complaining that the guy she's with is a jerk? or that she's dissatsfied? The best relationships are the ones where the relationship is pretty equal.
Hkizzle Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 nope always in the woman's favor. women can easily exploit men's insecurities. women have to offer less but get more. women marry up. men don't even get to pick who to have sex with. women are the selectors. read the quote below. Ok, whatever you say. Which btw is obviously why the best selling male self help books are all about picking up women. Whilst all the best selling female self help books teach women how to get men to be more commited and how to break away from jerks and avoid them in future. Thus reflecting the real problems REAL men and women face across the population. You however are in a pissing contest, trying to prove women have more power all the time over men. Which quite frankly shows you're biased and shows you lack credibility in your analysis.
You'reasian Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Which btw is obviously why the best selling male self help books are all about picking up women. Whilst all the best selling female self help books teach women how to get men to be more commited and how to break away from jerks and avoid them in future. Interesting gauge.
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