Yukikazi Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 Ok so I've known this girl for about 15 years or so now.. we'll call her "Crazy Bitch" Now crazy bitch isn't the best friend in the world.. very selfish cursed with the princess complex.. its all about her. She's been in and out of rehab and has drug issues and can be a real bitch in public.. though she's decent in private and when she isn't drunk. But since its all about her.. she dosen't really seem to think about others.. and in this case.. myself. Now keep in mind she's got herpes so I don't really wanna sleep with her and risk catching anything.. but the underlying desire to screw her is still there.. thankfully the big head stays in control even when I'm drunk. So she had the rank to know certain things about me that noone else should have.. mainly I'm virgin still.. yes I consider it embarrassing as hell and the thought of actually getting to that point scares the **** outta me since I know the first time is gonna be a disaster.. so its damn i want it to happen but knowing at my age I should have experience.. just makes it more nerve wracking. Anyways.. recently I discovered via overhearing that she had apparently told some guy my status as he was insecure regarding my relationship with her.. so she took it upon herself to betray my trust and tell him that which she had no right to do. Apparently his insecurity is more concerning then my trust and a 15 year friendship. (I overheard this guy asking her "Is that the guy that's never had sex?" one night and that pissed me off). Before I left I told her she should not break peoples confidences and haven't spoken to her since. Over the past few months she's txt'd or left VM's on occasion wanting to talk and work things out and she'll even be in town for a few days soon and wants to get together and work things out. A mutual friend has indicated (in confidence so it dosen't get back to crazy bitch) that the crazy one seems to preface any meeting of her friends or people she knew with "yea this is Yukikazi, he's a really nice guy but never had sex".. essentially embarrassing the **** out of me to people I haven't even met yet. (This is apparently how I was introduced to this mutual friend.. though I just found out about this tidbit after i stopped talking to the crazy bitch). Realize.. this isn't the first time she's royally pissed me off... last time she had lied to me in order to get a ride to a guys house... didn't talk to her for 2 years after that one... so she knew I was capable of saying **** it and walking. So.. I'm debating.. I haven't answered any of her texts or attempts at communication sans an accidental response to a happy birthday. She wants to get together and work things out.. I'm not sure what I wanna do about it.... Advice?
tinktronik Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 Write the frenemy off. This is no friend at all.
Turista Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 No no a thousand times no! I let my crazy bitch back in only to spend a year with her emotionally unavailable and now that we're broken up I know the reason and that is that she was emotionally invested in her secret life... And that secret life involved maintaining a connection with a guy she rebounded with during a 1 month breakup as narcissistic old support. I suspect he's now current support, but that part truly is her business. Finding this made a lot of what happened actually start to make sense but I'm wasting far too much emotional and mental horsepower working it all out when I really wish I could just move on. But it's like some sort of super slow-mo romantic traffic accident where I'm both victim and passer by. Don't go here, only madness and sadness ensue...
Author Yukikazi Posted October 8, 2009 Author Posted October 8, 2009 (edited) Yea I hear what you're sayin... I don't really wanna deal with her again.. but I do sorta wanna tell her in no uncertain terms that she made the wrong choice and ****ed up... Picking some old geezers insecurity over 15 years.. I am sorta considering the possibility of using it as a learning experience.. I've since moved to another location so I have no desire to let her know where I live now.. new life and all that.. I'm sorta curious as to how she would handle me telling her not a chance.. see how desperate she gets to fix things up.. call it my morbid curiosity... she no longer lives in this state so its not like I'd be hanging out with her ever again. Just meet with her 1 day for a few drinks and tell her all the lil thoughts that stewed in my head over the years and whatnot. Would a conversation like that hurt her??.. probably.. do I care anymore.. not at all.. So I'm sorta wanting try it as a learning experience for breaking it off with someone as I've never been the one doing the breaking up.. So would my getting together with her once to get all this off my mind be unnecessarily cruel or cathartic? Phone is her only means of whining in my direction, since she no longer knows where I live. Only other option is to keep ignoring her VM's and txt's or change my #... sooner or later she'll rub her 2 IQ points together and call me from a # I don't recognize as her and get me on the phone... though I refuse to change my # do to this crazy bitch Edited October 8, 2009 by Yukikazi
Ronni_W Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 I am sorta considering the possibility of using it as a learning experience.. That's the one! It has an air of plausibility so I'd suggest that you use that one as your excuse to get involved with a "nutjob crazy bitch". It sounds as if you're going to do it, anyway, so by all means...and happy learning
Author Yukikazi Posted October 8, 2009 Author Posted October 8, 2009 No.. not getting involved.. this would be more along the lines of my venting my opinions.. then walking out and washing my hands of her.. remember.. different state.. no worries of involvement
Author Yukikazi Posted October 8, 2009 Author Posted October 8, 2009 Yea.. keep moving forward... just wish the crazy bitch would get a clue and stop txting and calling me...
trueblue72ny Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 if you ignore her long enough she will eventually get the hint.
js6489 Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 Sometimes when we find ourselves in situations like this is is best to move on. It seems as though beign friends with this girl is a near impossibility and a strain on youself. i am certainly glad that you have taken this as a learning experince. Life often throughs us into situations that become learning experiences and it is up to us what we take from it. Moving on and enjoying your life may very well be the way to go on this one.
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