Msbrokenheart Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 its my ex's birthday tomorrow. he broke up with my a month ago, went out for 6 years. Now for my birthday which was last month he gave me a sms saying "hey happy birthday hope all ur wishes come true", this was 3 weeks ago. i got really angry after receiving this message, soon after i found out his dating this girl that liked him for awhile. Well long story cut short, should i bother doing anything for him? i was going to book a cruise and go dinner on the harbour with him..is it really stupid because he has someone now..i still miss him and love him so much it hurts. The last time we talked which was a week ago he told me he missed me alot and didn't know if he should be with this girl..we have has no contact since that phone call.. any advice anyone??
Northwesthunny Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 i dont think you should do anything - like you said you was angry when you recieved the text from him on your birthday! Dont even send him a happy birthday message you will only get your hopes up.
TaraMaiden Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 Well, yes, but you may not like it.... Don't even think about his birthday. You really should give a damn, because it's not your business any more. leave it be, don't contact him at all... You'll resent it if he doesn't even acknowledge your good wishes, and if he does, you'll wish you'd never heard from him, because it will set you back..... Lose/lose..... let it go.
GrayClouds Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 its my ex's birthday tomorrow. he broke up with my a month ago, went out for 6 years. Now for my birthday which was last month he gave me a sms saying "hey happy birthday hope all ur wishes come true", this was 3 weeks ago. i got really angry after receiving this message, soon after i found out his dating this girl that liked him for awhile. Well long story cut short, should i bother doing anything for him? i was going to book a cruise and go dinner on the harbour with him..is it really stupid because he has someone now..i still miss him and love him so much it hurts. The last time we talked which was a week ago he told me he missed me alot and didn't know if he should be with this girl..we have has no contact since that phone call.. any advice anyone?? Yes book the cruise and go with one of your girl friends. His breaking up with you was to tell you he's not interested in your offers of birthday well wishes.
Author Msbrokenheart Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 thanks guys for your reply guys, i didnt book anything, its his bday today might just message and say happy bday maybe. nothing more, i dont want to get back with him anymore, i feel really relieved i didnt do anything silly.
jerbear Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 Since he sent a contact I would return the favor but keep it very short as in Happy b-day. If possible just post it on his Facebook account and keep it on the FRIEND level.
Author Msbrokenheart Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 yea just sent a small msg, he replied sayin he really liked it. But honestly think im on the over it stage..feel really happy now. I still think about him but nothing i cant live without. thanks for the reples guys
ATR Posted October 10, 2009 Posted October 10, 2009 (edited) If I were you I will do something. A simple greetings is enough, at least you can show him that you are the same person he used to know. Who knows, a simple greeting might change everything. Bad advice! By sending that she'll look pathetic as he already has a new gf! A greeting will not change anything, just perhaps make him and his new gf have a few chuckles about sending it. He is nothing more than a stranger now, in fact he's worse than that as he knows your secrets. Edit: Just realised i was too late. You'll feel the sting of this in a couple of days... Edited October 10, 2009 by ATR
Author Msbrokenheart Posted October 11, 2009 Author Posted October 11, 2009 thank atr, nuh it was a simple msg anyways. nothing more. it was a long relationship almost 6 years so cant be complete strangers, but having no contact and he's with someone else helps a lot in my healing process.
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