pandagirl Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 Last night, I hung out with J, the guy I dated last summer. Our relationship was very brief, but consequentially, our history has been one of trying to be friends, not being friends, dating other people, not talking for months, etc. So, we met up last night. I hadn't seen him since Jan or Feb, but our strong point has always been we just get along SO WELL. Our brains operate on the same wavelength, and our jokes and humor mesh and everything is so easy, and fun and comfortable with him. Five hours flew by with us just jabbing away. There was no undertone of sexual tension, like there had been in the past. We were just having a lot of fun and talking about everything. But, at the end of the night when he gave me a hug and it lingered a too long, we ended up kissing for a bit, which immediately after, we laughed and made fun of ourselves. I don't ever foresee myself dating him again. I'm not interested. Been down that road before and it didn't work. But seeing him again makes me realize what true chemistry is. And it really doesn't have to do with sex. Anyone experience this sort of healthy connection with an ex?
aerogurl87 Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 I've never been able to experience such a thing since I don't talk to any of my exes (just a rule of mine to keep my life as uncomplicated as possible.)
Author pandagirl Posted October 8, 2009 Author Posted October 8, 2009 I've never been able to experience such a thing since I don't talk to any of my exes (just a rule of mine to keep my life as uncomplicated as possible.) I'm not friends with any exes either; nothing in particular really bad happened with this guy. And we just genuinely get on so well. But, last night, I just sort of realized chemistry doesn't have much to do with sex, which I didn't really put together prior.
Star Gazer Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 PG, yes... I have healthy friendships with a couple ex's, although we never actually see each other anymore. It's nice.
EcstasyX6 Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 For me, true chemistry does involve sex. Lol. But to answer your question, no, it's never happened to me.
aerogurl87 Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 But, last night, I just sort of realized chemistry doesn't have much to do with sex, which I didn't really put together prior. Yeah it really doesn't. And although I don't keep in contact with any of my exes anymore, I know that if things hadn't ended so badly with my most recent ex we could be best friends still. Actually he was the first (and probably the last) guy I tried and actually WANTED to be friends with after we broke up. We just got each other on a level that few people are able to understand each other on. But that didn't work out, so oh well.
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