wizardof7 Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 My current girlfriend has a lot on her plate . She has a an unreasonable ex husband , an overbearing aunt { who she lives with by circumstance } her husband tries to set her children against her . and now she says she feels guilty about having a good time with me . she keeps letting her ex get under her skin . Now when shes with me she feels great . she smiles , she has great energy . But now all of the sudden these issues have come up , and shes down in the dumps . and it takes her a while to come back . I'm just looking for some perspective . save all your bashing comments for someone else . I'm looking for things I can do to make her feel good during the time we don't see each other .
R2D Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 A few ideas; Send her a card in the mail, that reminds her that you think she is special and gives her a moment to be reminded of happier things. Do upbeat fun things and try to keep things light. Massages are great, neck & feet to help her relax. Listen, listen, listen but don't try to fix it, she needs to navigate on her own and come to her own conclusions. When you have kids, you have guilt, it is that simple and yes when we are having a good time without them, sometimes we feel guilty. No one can control her ex or how he is toxic to the kids so do your best to work around it, there is no changing who is. Same goes for her aunt. Hopefully she can move soon and that will take care of one of her main sources of stress. Good luck, being the supportive partner can be challenging.
Author wizardof7 Posted October 8, 2009 Author Posted October 8, 2009 Thanks for the positive message . A few ideas; Send her a card in the mail, that reminds her that you think she is special and gives her a moment to be reminded of happier things. Do upbeat fun things and try to keep things light. Massages are great, neck & feet to help her relax. Listen, listen, listen but don't try to fix it, she needs to navigate on her own and come to her own conclusions. When you have kids, you have guilt, it is that simple and yes when we are having a good time without them, sometimes we feel guilty. No one can control her ex or how he is toxic to the kids so do your best to work around it, there is no changing who is. Same goes for her aunt. Hopefully she can move soon and that will take care of one of her main sources of stress. Good luck, being the supportive partner can be challenging.
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